(Closed) People that RSVP ‘Yes’ But Don’t Show Up

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 92
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69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Our wedding was 9/8. Out of our 268 person count we gave to the caterer, 33 didn’t show! 33! Six of which weren’t invited. An aunt RSVP’d for her three children and their spouses/SO’s (all in their mid 20’s to early 30’s), and that entire group of 8 didn’t show. The aunt sent us a check for $20. Our plate cost was around $100 per person. Plus the wasted cake, wasted table and table setting, etc etc.

Irks me to no end. So annoying.

Post # 92
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1 posts
Wannabee

Out of 100 people that were supposed to show up that said yes to the RSVP (these are people that responded that they were definitely going to be there and not just people that got invitations) 25 of them did not show! Do you know how much money that cost us? Only 3 of them had an actual problem or emergency when they were in a car wreck. The rest just didn’t show up and didn’t say anything. Does anyone know of a higher percentage than the 25% than we had that didn’t show up when they actually RSVPed with a YES? To me, it was unheard of and we do not have much money so it really upset us and wasted a lot of our money.

Post # 93
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86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

We had a handful of no shows.  Out of the 150 that RSVP’d, I think 6 or so people didn’t show.  We also had about three people show up unexpectedly.  ie: people brought their kids without telling us.  It all ended up working out in the end.

We had a pretty big scare, as my wedding was accross the golden gate bridge in northern california and they shut the bridge down the day of our wedding due to a huge accident.  Luckily timing-wise everyone arrived only 30 minutes late, so we just pushed back the whole wedding 30 minutes.  Since probably 30% of our guests were stuck on the bridge.

You never really know what will happen, and I think people lose perspective on how much goes in to planning a wedding, and don’t realize how rude it is to not show up.  I tried not to take no shows personally, and just enjoyed my day.

Post # 94
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2 posts
Wannabee

We had a teeny tiny wedding, and out of the 10 ppl that RSVP’d for my side, only 1 showed up (and it wasn’t my mother). It of course irked me to no end because we could have cut our food cost in half, but totally broke my heart that my family would flake on me without so much as an explanation 

Post # 95
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507 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Our church and then at The Garden Room for the reception

4 people didn’t show. Two had a medical emergency (I understand), and the others came to the ceremony but never showed up for the reception. We have yet to hear from him and his significant other, and they will not return our calls.

Post # 96
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1 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Our wedding was last year and out of all 155 guest that did RSVP, 60 showed up. None of them had medical emergencies, or tragedies, they just decided not to show up. I was so upset and not to mention that cost me so much money, considering they had all selected their meals, I ordered kids meals for their children. It was so stressfull. If I could go back and do it all over again, I would suggest to my husband lets have a small intimate beach wedding.

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