Post # 1
So as much as I adore our invitation suite, I think I made a boo-boo. On the actual invitation it says, “Brunch reception to follow”. Then there was also a card included inviting all guests to our after party in the evening – “The celebration continues with Dancing and Merriment at …” The RSVP card had two lines – “Wedding and Reception” and “Evening Celebration”. I thought that made it very clear that the “proper” reception follows the morning ceremony, and the celebration in the evening is not the main event.
However, I’ve been getting a lot of comments like, “What should I wear to your reception?” and I’m like, “Uh, what you wear to the wedding- Oh wait, you mean the after party? Oh, its casual.” Or, “We won’t be able to come to your reception, but we’ll stay for brunch.”
I think this is an easy mistake to make, because for a lot of people, dancing = reception. But it is a little upsetting because I don’t want people to think the brunch is just this little afterthought after the ceremony. It’s our wedding reception! We’re spending A LOT of money on food, flowers, decor, etc. for our brunch reception. The after party will be at a cool location and we’ll have light hor’s d’eourves, but again, its not the main event!
My mom says to relax, people will appreciate it when they see how lovely it is when they show up. But should I correct people when they make those kinds of comments?
Post # 3
I think it’s ok to say something when they ask you about it like “The Brunch Reception is the actual reception and the later event is a more casual after party” No biggie, but why not clarify it?
Post # 4
I agree! I think letting anybody know who might be a bit confused is the best way to go.
Sounds like so much fun! Who wouldn’t want a wonderful brunch and then get to relax and hang out and come back and boogie down later on in the evening at the after party?
If you get a chance to talk to any of the guests, you could also casually bring this up in conversation too!
Post # 5
I guess I feel weird being like, “No, you’ve got it all wrong!” I don’t know how to correct people or “casually bring it up” without seeming like I’m super controlling or something.
@Bellenga: Thanks! Of course, I think it is great too, but I just don’t want the brunch to be downplayed. I would hate for people to leave early because they don’t think it is a big deal, but I am hoping when they show up and see all the lovely tables set and the wedding cake and the whole shebang, they’ll know this is the real deal!
I was also thinking of putting a page in our program that says, “RECEPTION – Join us for brunch, toasts and wedding cake under the tent”, just to reiterate that there is a proper reception to follow! I could also use that page to mention our kids’ activities and our photo guestbook. Or is that too much? I was also planning on having our minister say after the recessional, “Please walk around the house to the backyard for appetizers and smoothies while the wedding party take pictures, before the reception begins under the tent.”
Post # 6
…So no one has any feedback on what we should put in the program, if anything? Sadness.
Post # 7
I think thats a good idea to incorporate that into your program just to reiterate what is going on. You dont want you’re guests to be confused but if you have your minister saying “join us…” then you might want to tell him before the very end of the ceremony, so that way people dont try to sneak out and beat a crowd (think end of a live sporting event”
Post # 8
Thanks, MrsH. I’ve decided to definitely include it in the program as well as have our minister mention it right at the end of the ceremony.