(Closed) People together AT LEAST 5 years with SO. how often do you have sex?

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: how often do you bone it out?
    3-6 times per week : (41 votes)
    21 %
    1-2 times per week : (67 votes)
    34 %
    Once every 7-14 days : (47 votes)
    24 %
    Once every 14-30 days : (20 votes)
    10 %
    Once every 1-2 months : (14 votes)
    7 %
    Once every 2-6 months : (2 votes)
    1 %
    Once every 6 months-yr : (2 votes)
    1 %
    Less than once a year : (0 votes)
    Every day : (5 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 4
    4313 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I don’t know why there’s a story.  We’re probably in the 3-4 range.  But we’ve always been that way…started off long distance.  Not much time for banging ๐Ÿ˜€

    Post # 6
    3968 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Currently long distance… ending soon though… so I’ll have to let you know in a few months lol, though I have a very low drive and so not very often is ok with me.

    Post # 7
    4313 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @loveseat:  That’s why I think we’ve been consistent.  When we visited of course we wanted to be intimate…but also see each other.  When we got together like for real moved by each other, the rush & urgency was gone I guess.  Not sure if that’s good or bad ๐Ÿ˜›

    I’m in the camp where less is more if it’s done right!  I rather have good sex 3 times a week then “ok let’s just do it” 7 times a week.  Every couple is different ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 8
    1026 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    wow Im kinda surprised by the answers. I put 1-2 times a week… but its probably 2-3 and I was feeling insecure that our intimacy has dipped. I guess thats pretty normal? 

    Post # 9
    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    It fluctuates. We can have a few months where it’s 2 or 3 times a week, we can skip a few months (and have before, particularly in times of high stress) but it isn’t like anyone’s needs go ignored, we tend to go through the same stages at the same time. I am due with a baby soon so I really want to pick up the sex, nothing killed our sex life like an infant haha!

    Post # 12
    1765 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Usually its anywhere from 1-4 times a week. It really depends on what’s going on in our lives. If we’re both not under stress, then it’s more. If we’re stressed out or sick, it’s less. I was just recently sick for three weeks feeling completely awful, and we had sex only two times during that period.

    Post # 13
    693 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Mr. and I have been together almost ten years. The last 3 have been about twice a month. It sucks. His health problems and my health problems make it very hard to find time, energy and motivation lol.

    We basically get drugged before bed, (he has to inject me) we look at each other, give a quick kiss and then literally fall asleep.

    We still try to cuddle and be affectionate so the intimacy is there. Just not the sex. I’m supposed to be in peak prime too ๐Ÿ™

    Post # 14
    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @loveseat:  i think sometimes people don’t want to admit it when they haven’t had sex in awhile, my husband sometimes jokes that his swimmers look more like frogs because it’s been so long and that is when I will realize “ok yeah, life has been getting a little too stressful, time to reconnect with my guy!” and it’s fine. But most married couples I know aren’t doing it like horny teens anymore. Some do and that is awesome for them, but I don’t think it always necessarily means there is a problem if you aren’t. 

    Post # 16
    305 posts
    Helper bee

    i’ve only been with my fi for four years but we do it every day we can. i am in my late 40s and so is he.  we have sex every morning and most nights. if i am on my period we stay away for a few days while that’s going on but there is other stuff going on instead.  we have no little ones keeping us busy though. we are both in good shape and love sex.  so…we are just horndogs i guess. 

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