People touching my belly without permission

posted 1 year ago in Pregnancy
Post # 16
549 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Fairmont Banff Springs Hotel

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breatheandrelax :  I have STRONG feelings about this. I also hated it and so whenever people (usually older women but it also workes with anyone) would touch my stomach, I would put my hand out against their chest. When they moved away I would say “Oh sorry- I thought we were touching eachother inappropriately!”

– Worked every single time and made me feel better in my crazy hormonal state too 😉 If you don’t feel comfortable with the chest, you could always cup their stomach and it would probably have a similar effect haha

Post # 17
609 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It’s weird to me that a lot of people experience this a lot.  In 2 pregnancies I only had 1 unwanted belly touch (and it was from a MAN! – husband of a co-worker).  Maybe it’s because I live in the midwest and people are generally more considerate and not touchy-feely (in my experience).  Even my mom asked first if she could touch.  

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

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Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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breatheandrelax :  I am only 15 weeks but I have this fear as well. We haven’t told our families or anyone at work yet so i haven’t encountered it yet.

I will be very up front about not liking anyone touching my stomach with my step Mother-In-Law. I don’t think my actual Mother-In-Law will cross that boundary. I work with mostly men who are younger with no kids, so I’m not worried about them at all. I do kinda worry if we have a baby shower that everyone will be handsy, I may have to carry some essential oils to calm myself beforehand. And strangers, I will just have to block their hand or say “excuse me?” and offend them. Doesn’t really bother me.

It absolutely blows my mind that – in 2019 – anyone would think touching a woman without permission is acceptable. For fks sake, hasn’t the #metoo movement been very clear on consent? It should not apply to just young women, or women in a sexual situation, or women at work, it should apply to ALL WOMEN OF ALL AGES, RACES, OCCUPATIONS & CONDITIONS.

I hate the excuse that people are “just excited” or if people think it’s “it’s good luck in their culture”. Well, it’s 2019, and physical contact without consent is inappropriate. Just because a woman is pregnant, does not mean her body is no longer her control. Pregnant women are not a lucky buddha, that has to allow people to touch their stomachs.

On another note, I get a little sad when I see children (particularly little girls) forced and pressured to hug or kiss anyone. Whether it’s a relative or not. But I’m just hormonal today so extra sensitive.

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