Post # 1
This is just a curiosity poll. Do you believe that people treat you better or different when your engagement ring diamond/moissanite carat size is bigger? It’s kind of open ended but any experience, positive or negative, is appreciated.
Post # 2
It would be pretty superficial to treat someone differently because they have a lot of money on their finger
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2021 - City, State
My dad’s aunt definitely was more impressed when I told her the carat equivalent of my moissy after she asked. But this isn’t surprising, she and her family have always been about their wealth and showing it off. Her granddaughter (my cousin) is having a massive wedding in Hawaii mostly because her parents can afford to. Otherwise, people have commented on the size “oh he must make a lot of money!” (He doesn’t, we’re both broke grad students) but never really treated us any different.
I wanted a bigger stone, 8mm, 2ct equivalent, because I have large fingers and the smaller ones just looked weird. But my ring in total cost $845USD where it would normally cost $1,500USD retail and a diamond of equivalent quality and size would cost tens of thousands of dollars.
Post # 4
I don’t wear a ring usually so what does that mean??!? Do I not exist? lol
Post # 5
Nobody ever notices my ring out in public lol Friends/family/acquaintances have told me it’s beautiful and have been genuinely very impressed with it, but other than that no one cares.
Post # 6
I do find that when I’m wearing my ring I get great service in stores🤣, especially luxury stores (LV/YSL/Saks). But that’s also the case when I’m carrying certain purses I get better treatment… so there’s that. I think sales people can be a little judgy/materialistic, but oh well who cares. Other than that not really any different treatment from people.
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
I have a somewhat sizable stone (1.5 carats on a size 5), but honestly no one ever really mentions or looks at my ring. If they do, they don’t mention it to me. I’ve never been treated one way or another because of it.
Post # 8
I feel like I’ve almost seen the opposite, people assuming women with large rings to be superficial or snobby. Except in shopping, I know some retail professions are actually trained to look at women’s rings as a judgement of spending power. I have a smallish diamond and I don’t feel I’ve ever been treated poorly for it…. but I also don’t have anyone in my circle with a large stone to compare to.
Post # 9
I don’t think anyone notices or cares
Post # 10
Lol, for years I wore only one ring after we got married because I didn’t want to spend time seaching for a ring. The engagement was only 5 weeks! I wore a diamond ring from my mother’s jewelry box. It was a 0.33 carat center diamond with lots of micropaved diamond milgrain braided design. I didn’t know people in USA usally wear two rings after the wedding.
People always asked me when the wedding would be, even 3 years after the wedding. Lol. Now I wear a traditional solitaire set, plain bands with moissanite round cut. I can feel the difference, especially when I go to the mall.
In short, I guess I find this social interaction interesting regardless if it is positive or negative. I like wearing a bigger stone so people don’t ask me when I need to upgrade, etc. In general, we live in a material world and I believe we can look good within our budgets.
I would like to learn about your experiences. Feel free to express.
Post # 11
when I’ve had to go to meetings in a professional environment I only wear my wedding band because yes, people judge women negatively for having a large diamond. When we were engaged, I wore a stand in band in those situations.
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2020 - Hampton, VA
I have a 4.5 DEW antique cut moissanite on small finger (size 4). The only thing I’ve noticed is a few glances, but people aren’t comfortable staring. haha I’ve gotten comments on how beautiful they think my ring is or how sparkly it is. One person has said, “Your fiance must looOOOOOooove you.” & I just smiled and said yes he does. lol
No one has treated me differently – that I’m aware of.
Post # 13
I’ve heard people negatively judge women with larger engagement rings as unduly materialistic or focused on being “socially impressive” or as having poorer values related to money. (My engagement ring doesn’t have a gem and isn’t recognizable to others as such, so I can’t speak from personal anecdotes, though perhaps that explains why people feel comfortable relating these judgments to me).
Post # 14
Also- the two ring things is SUPER regional even in the USA. Where I grew up (in part of the midwest) and where I live now (urban Northeast) most people only wear a wedding ring after they get married–the engagement ring is pretty much just for the period of time between engagement and wedding, and then its put away. But that isn’t true in many other demographics/parts of the country.
Post # 15
People treat me like shit in general.