People treat you better when your diamond carat is bigger?

posted 12 months ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

It would be pretty superficial to treat someone differently because they have a lot of money on their finger

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2021 - City, State

My dad’s aunt definitely was more impressed when I told her the carat equivalent of my moissy after she asked. But this isn’t surprising, she and her family have always been about their wealth and showing it off. Her granddaughter (my cousin) is having a massive wedding in Hawaii mostly because her parents can afford to. Otherwise, people have commented on the size “oh he must make a lot of money!” (He doesn’t, we’re both broke grad students) but never really treated us any different.

I wanted a bigger stone, 8mm, 2ct equivalent, because I have large fingers and the smaller ones just looked weird. But my ring in total cost $845USD where it would normally cost $1,500USD retail and a diamond of equivalent quality and size would cost tens of thousands of dollars.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t wear a ring usually so what does that mean??!? Do I not exist?  lol

Post # 5
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Busy bee

Nobody ever notices my ring out in public lol Friends/family/acquaintances have told me it’s beautiful and have been genuinely very impressed with it, but other than that no one cares. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

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mirandacrowley :  I do find that when I’m wearing my ring I get great service in stores🤣, especially luxury stores (LV/YSL/Saks). But that’s also the case when I’m carrying certain purses I get better treatment… so there’s that. I think sales people can be a little judgy/materialistic, but oh well who cares. Other than that not really any different treatment from people.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

I have a somewhat sizable stone (1.5 carats on a size 5), but honestly no one ever really mentions or looks at my ring.  If they do, they don’t mention it to me.  I’ve never been treated one way or another because of it.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

I feel like I’ve almost seen the opposite, people assuming women with large rings to be superficial or snobby. Except in shopping, I know some retail professions are actually trained to look at women’s rings as a judgement of spending power. I have a smallish diamond and I don’t feel I’ve ever been treated poorly for it…. but I also don’t have anyone in my circle with a large stone to compare to.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

I don’t think anyone notices or cares

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

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hockeybee0104 :  when I’ve had to go to meetings in a professional environment I only wear my wedding band because yes, people judge women negatively for having a large diamond. When we were engaged, I wore a stand in band in those situations. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2020 - Hampton, VA

I have a 4.5 DEW antique cut moissanite on small finger (size 4). The only thing I’ve noticed is a few glances, but people aren’t comfortable staring. haha I’ve gotten comments on how beautiful they think my ring is or how sparkly it is. One person has said, “Your fiance must looOOOOOooove you.” & I just smiled and said yes he does. lol 

No one has treated me differently – that I’m aware of.

Post # 13
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Busy bee

I’ve heard people negatively judge women with larger engagement rings as unduly materialistic or focused on being “socially impressive” or as having poorer values related to money. (My engagement ring doesn’t have a gem and isn’t recognizable to others as such, so I can’t speak from personal anecdotes, though perhaps that explains why people feel comfortable relating these judgments to me). 

Post # 14
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Busy bee

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mirandacrowley :  Also- the two ring things is SUPER regional even in the USA. Where I grew up (in part of the midwest) and where I live now (urban Northeast) most people only wear a wedding ring after they get married–the engagement ring is pretty much just for the period of time between engagement and wedding, and then its put away. But that isn’t true in many other demographics/parts of the country. 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

People treat me like shit in general.

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