- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Alright, this might sound weird, but bear with me while I explain it. We’re trying so hard to keep our guest list at 100 people, tops. We have pared it down to just our families and closest friends, and we’re also trying to let those who have kids bring them, too. This doesn’t leave much room for +1’s.
I’m not a big fan of +1’s anyway. If you have a SO that you’ve been dating awhile and that I’ve come to know through you, then yes, they will get an invite. But we are not putting “and guest” on any invitations, because we don’t want a lot of random folks at our wedding. Also, most of our guests will know plenty of other people there, so I don’t feel like any of them need to bring a date in order to have fun.
So here’s where it gets weird. I am inviting my mom’s neighbor, who is kind of a goofy guy, but who is a good person at heart. I’ve known him for 10 years, and I think it would be nice to invite him. However, he changes girlfriends like he changes his socks. He never keeps them very long, and in fact, tries pretty hard to get rid of them once things start getting too serious.
I ran into him the other day, and he asked me how the wedding planning was going and if he was going to get an invite to the wedding (kind of a rude question, but okay). I said, Yes, of course, we’d like you to be there! But then he said, “Do I get to bring a date?”
I had no idea what to say to him, because as of right then, the answer would have been no. I didn’t even know if he was currently dating anyone, and I knew that if he was, I certainly didn’t know who she was. I was completely caught off guard. So I winked and said, “Well it depends on who you’re dating.” I know, not the best answer, and pretty smartass. I should have handled that more gracefully.
But now, he is trying to introduce his current girlfriend to me, and I think it’s only to ensure she gets invited. I don’t know…it kind of weirds me out. I don’t think he’d otherwise care about introducing us at all, because he’s never made a point of doing that in the past. It’s just…weird.
What do you think about all this?