(Closed) People trying to introduce you to their SO specifically to get a +1

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
1667 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

yeah it’s weird and it’s happned to me as well.

My take is. . .you don’t know this current girlfriend so why should she be at your wedding, he’ll probably have a new one in a couple months anyways.

Keep it at a 1 for his invite, and if he questions, just tell him what you told us, you are keeping the wedding smaller and intimate. end of story.

Post # 4
4518 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think it’s pretty rude…or just thoughtless on his part. I’m sure he doesn’t MEAN to be rude, but still, I would just tell him no. No explanation needed. He sounds easy-going, so hopefully you guys can just laugh about it and it won’t be awkward.

Post # 5
242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

This is cracking me up, though I could really see certain people doing this.


100 is an intimate gathering.  i don’t see why you would have to make allowances for guests that you don’t personally know.  That’s my feeling.  However, weddings seem to require so many compromises and skills in handling people’s quirks.  

Sigh…we should really all get a degree when we’re through with all of this.  I don’t think this much learning came about throughout my college programs!

Post # 6
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m in the same situation for my wedding, I don’t want anybody there who I’ll never see again. Everyone who is invited will know at least a few other people, I don’t think anybody will feel uncomfortable without a date. I have yet to run into your situation but I’m sure its coming (considering my Maid/Matron of Honor had to talk a friend of mine out of trying to bring someone she hasn’t seen in literally 3 years as a date, just to have one)

Post # 7
24 posts
  • Wedding: April 2011

Weddings are a great reason to celebrate love, old and new, but you are only required to invite your neighbor’s SO if they live together or are engaged. If not, it was definitely rude of him to ask you! Given your number constraints and his track record with casual romances, I can see why you would want him to attend solo.

I would just hold a firm line with him: “I’m sorry but our wedding is an intimate gathering with limited seating. We are only extending plus one invitations to spouses, fiances, or live-in partners of our guests.”

Post # 9
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Well, you might end up liking her. But if you really don’t have room for him to bring a plus one, then I would avoid meeting her before the wedding like the plague and just send him an invite addressed just to him and if he asks apologize up and down and say you would love to invite more people but just can’t because of the budget, venue size, etc.

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