Post # 1
I really don’t get why they are all worked up. Personally, a night out with my sweetheart without the children was always a welcome diversion. Why are parents so insanely attached to their kids that they can’t spend time away from them? It’s nuts.
Post # 3
Don’t let it get to you!
People need to get upset over something! It’s their choice whether to leave their kids or not and it’s your choice whether to have an adult only party or not!
Try not to be too upset if people decline! The people that love you unconditionally will be there no matter what!!!!
Post # 4
I’m having a no kids wedding. I dont think its nuts that parents are attached to their kids, also for some of them its hard to find good babysitters that dont cost the earth. I totally understand that its hard for parents to come to a wedding without their kids but my venue just cant accomodate kids.
Post # 5
I am not having a large wedding and there are no children t invite anyway. I am not actually venting about my situation but commenting as if I were a guest invited to a no kids wedding. For me, it would be a welcome diversion for a night.
Post # 6
We are having select children and two babysitters at our wedding. But only because I have worked with kids for almost 20 years now.
Stick to your guns! In all honesty are these parents going to shell out another hundred bucks because they are bringing along 2 kids? No. Average gift from people is $150 and that (in Chicago) is only enough to cover one person. Adding kids to the equation just ups the ante and I highly doubt people will raise the monetary stakes to cover them! Have to be real on this one! Because the guest list really winds down to money!
Post # 7
Um..my guest list has to do with how many guests my location can accomodate, not money. We just don’t have room for the kiddos because my venue is relatively small.
I understand that it might be difficult/expensive to find a babysitter, especially if you’re traveling from out of town…but I’m not making that any of my concern. If people can’t come because their kids aren’t invited, I will miss seeing them and understand, but that’s that.
Post # 8
I don’t know why parents don’t enjoy a chance to have a night out. I thought my future sisters in law would be excited to spend a night out celebrating with us but the middle sister, with 2 children ages 4 and 1, can’t bring herself to be seperated from them for a night. She is really mad at me. I just can’t imagine listening to kids all night. I love children but I am a nanny and the last thing I want is to be reminded of work all night. I will probably be inviting my employers but not the boys.
Post # 9
As a parent I would have no problem with a no kids wedding. Sounds like a fun date night! However if the wedding were out of town for us and required more than a few hours drive time we would decline the invite. Fiance and I don’t leave our young daughter with anyone overnight even grandparents. Yes I know it’s extreme but she’s not even 2 yet so this may change when she’s older.
Post # 10
I don’t get it either to be honest, it’s like they are going to die if they are without their children for a night, but of course I can understand the attachment to an extent. I would like to have a no-child wedding, even though our venue can accomodate the extras and we have daycare available, I don’t really care for kids, and so far on our list, we have about 30! That to me is just too many! ahhhh. I really just want to be able to relax on my wedding day, and with all of the kids I am having to invite, I have a feeling that it’s not going to be so relaxing after all.