(Closed) people want to change their RSVP’s to… YES???

posted 12 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
202 posts
Helper bee

yes, just let them be petty and avoid being so yourself for their bad etiquette. dont let it ruin your day.


sorry for  your loss. 🙁 

Post # 4
161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

oh wow that’s unbelievable.  I’m so sorry.  I think you just have to let them come.  Just be sweet as pie — that’s the best revenge.  Knowing you’re the bigger person.

Post # 5
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I guess I agree.  Unless of course you really don’t have room, or have already given final numbers to the caterer.  But if you have three weeks left, I suppose that can’t be the case.  (But if it somehow is, I certainly wouldn’t jump through any hoops to make room for them – just let them know you wish they had let you know earlier, because its not possible to accomodate their change of heart at this late date.)

It is incredibly petty and annoying of them – and I would be upset if I was you.  Remember that you really don’t have to spend lots of time with any particular guest – you probably will hardly see them.  Maybe you can sit them all at the same table, on the theory that this will save all the other guests from the pleasure of their company. 

Post # 6
26 posts
  • Wedding: August 2008

If you really want them there, then let them come, if you don’t care or only invited them because you felt like you had to, I would simply tell them that as per your RSVP request, the date to RSVP was xx/xx/xx and you can no longer accomodate.   If they are so petty that they cannot / will not share YOUR day because they will have to eat a meal in the same room as someone they don’t like, well I wouldn’t want them there anyways.   But you could look at this as an opportunity to mend family ties and let them come. 

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