Post # 1
The past few weeks a strange thing has been happening… Random people (who must think they are invited?) are buying from our registries! We can’t afford to invite anymore people, and honestly, they’re not family or close friends…
For example: A couple at my church that I don’t really know that well, who also invited themselves to my brothers wedding 5 years ago…
And my best friend from seventh grade who I had a falling-out with a long time ago…
I invited the couple from church because my mom saw them and they said how excited they were =/ But, I can’t really afford to invite this girl who I haven’t really spoken to in 12 years…
What is the etiquette for random gifts from non-guests??? Ideas? Has this happened to anyone?
Post # 4
You act like a gracious woman, accept the gift and send a thank you. Simple.
Post # 5
How did they get access to the registry? Invite who you are going to invite, but send them nice thank you notes.
Post # 6
I most certainly will send a thank you note. 🙂
Post # 7
We registered at big stores, so I’m assuming they just went to the store or website and put my name in. 🙂
Post # 8
Ahh…that sounds super pushy to me, I would just send a note. 🙂
Post # 9
@ms-valentine: Most of the time all you have to do is google the couples names and their registries will show up.
I would send a nice thank you note. I have had many friends that I had no expectation of bring invited to their wedding but I love them and wanted to bless them with a small wedding present. If I was not a broke college student I would have bought them a gift just to say good luck and I hope you have a wonderful marriage.
Post # 10
Accept graciously and send a thank you note. People come out of the woodwork and you’ll get gifts from people you’d never expect. When my mom got married the first time, she said that she got presents from friends of her mom’s that she’d never even met. It’s one of those weird things that just happens, whether you’re registered or not.
Post # 11
We had a couple of uninvited people send gifts or cards. We’re just planning on sending a sincere thank-you note – we didn’t feel the need to invite them just because they bought us something. Also, a lot of people gave us these gifts on the day of the wedding (showed up and dropped them off at my parents’ house), or shortly afterwards, so they almost definitely weren’t fishing for invitations.
Post # 12
Can you make the registries private?
Post # 13
You could also sort of adapt the A list B list guest list idea.
essentially you budgeted for x number if people, but generally 20% won’t attend. So if your yes rsvps are lower than expected just invite those couple of people who got the registry info.
Post # 14
It’s fine. Just say “thanks.” With the costs of weddings today, I think most people understand that wedding invite lists are usually smaller than the couple would like. They should not be assuming they get an invite. But they’re probably just happy for you and want to send you something.
Don’t sweat this one too much. If they confront you directly, just tell them that you’re having an intimate wedding with mostly family.
Post # 15
How is that pushy?
I had extended family who weren’t invited that sent gifts with relatives who did come.
People don’t only give gifts so they get an invitation.
Post # 16
@echristine: um, be excited? lol. i would just send a thank you note, and be gracious. you dont have to invite people because they buy you a gift…that’s not how that works. lol