Post # 1
I take things too personally. If 95 people think I am awesome, I focus on the 5 who don’t. I want to work on this but not sure how. Have you ever thought like this? How did you fix it? Any good perspective tips?
Post # 3
- Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA
The people who don’t think you’re awesome probably don’t know you well enough to make that judgement. Some people form snap judgements before getting to know someone. If someone doesn’t like me, I take solace in the fact that if they got to know me, they would change their minds. 🙂 If not, then maybe there is something wrong with them! Haha.
Post # 4
I dont let it get to me. You shouldnt either. I believe its their loss. There are more important things in life than to worry about the few who dont like you.
Post # 5
Do YOU like everyone you meet? I think the important thing is to realize that not everyone mesh’s and not everyone has personalities that go well together. You don’t like everyone and not everyone has to like you. The important thing is that YOU like you, and if you are confident in who you are, it is important to remind yourself that it doesn’t really matter if someone else like’s who you are, because they really don’t make a difference in your life one way or another. You like you, the people in your life who love you like you, who cares about the rest.
I also read something once that I thought was interesting in regard to caring what other people think. It was that it’s none of your business what other people think of you, or anything else really. They can think whatever they want, it’s not your business to know what they think, or to have an issue with it. That always stuck with me for some reason.
Post # 6
I don’t think about it. Life’s too short to care about people who don’t matter to me. That way, I have more time to spend on the people I like and care about.
Post # 7
The feeling is usually mutual. I usually don’t like the people that don’t like me. Problem solved!
Post # 8
I get the feeling that lots of people don’t like me, especially women who are (probably) threatened by how good I am at my job or who don’t like how direct I am. I know I could obsess about it and work on being less to-the-point and try to imitate the way the other women act but I’ve never gotten the hang of fitting in with that crowd… so mostly I just don’t let it bother me 🙂 There are people who definitely like me and I try to focus on the fact that I’m a good person and I don’t like everyone I meet either!
Post # 9
@guitargirl: I can relate. My coworker and I did a presentation for a group of people who loved it and raved about it… except for ONE. I focused on why she didn’t like it and got my knickers in a twist over it vs. focusing on the amazing feedback we did receive (overwhelming majority).
I realized after a couple of days though that you can’t please everyone. It’s just impossible. You also never know what that person’s situation is/was… they could have been having a bad day etc.
I think the same thing goes for people who don’t like you/you don’t like. Unless they’re actively trying to sabotage or be mean to you, I wouldn’t worry about it. I try to be civil (if not nice) to everyone, and not burn any bridges. You just never know who you might need down the road.
I am not sure how many people truly don’t like me. There’s this one passive aggressive chick at work who I used to be friends with. It was really hard at first but I guess I learned to basically tune her out. I am civil to her and that’s about it. I was hurt when she wanted to end the friendship but I got over it eventually and vowed not to be friends w. people at work anymore (keep work and personal life separate). Good lesson.
Only worry about what you CAN control.
Post # 10
My mom gave me the greatest advice, on the first day of kindergarten. Not everyone is going to like you and that’s ok, most people will so don’t worry about the crazy few.
Never worried about people not liking me at all. …. plus agree with PP, most the people that don’t like me, I don’t like anyways so no sweat.
Post # 11
I just remember that I too have people that I don’t like.
Chances are that I really don’t care much about the opinions of people who don’t like me, so I don’t waste any energy on them.
Post # 12
I’m super happy with who I am and the choices i’ve made. So, people not agreeing with that doesn’t really shake me at all. I think it’s about confidence and feeling comfortable with where you’re at.
Post # 13
I don’t know, I just don’t care. :S
When I was younger, I did. But I didn’t have a lot of self-esteem. But as I got older and became more confident in my abilities, I just.didn’t.care.
And I still don’t.
Post # 14
I just always remind myself – you can’t be everyone’s cup of tea! As long as the people I like who are important to me like me, that’s all that matters.
As for the rest? I attribute it to a multitude of reasons I will never understand or know – maybe they have some sort of problem that stems from something I don’t know. I try not to judge why someone wouldn’t like someone as awesome as me. Something must be terribly wrong in their life and I just feel sorry for them, that’s all.
Post # 15
@guitargirl: I’m the same way!! I wish I had tips. My husband is awesome at not caring what others think about him. I wish I were the same way!
Post # 16
@miss mechanical: This so much.
I am definitely of the “Oh, you don’t like me? Too bad for you and kindly fuck off” school.