Post # 1
So we are 9 days (whoa!) away from our wedding, and we still have about 5 people we haven’t heard back from. This wouldn’t be a big deal, but because we’re having about 120 guests, we figured a seating chart would make it easier from everyone. Right now, it’s a perfect fit, but there are still people who we don’t know whether to count on them being there or not. I have cousins who I’ve even reached out to through FB messenger, and they’ve just left my message on read. Even a “we can’t come” would be fine, I just need to know. Do I include them in the seating chart anyway or do I just let them come and figure it out? The way it stands now, our tables and chart are pretty much set, but do I leave an extra table just in case to be nice?
Post # 2
I also want to note that I get along fine with everybody who hasn’t responded, so I don’t think they’re ignoring me because of something I’ve done.
Post # 3
Can you call these people and just straight up ask? If they don’t answer, I would text them or send another FB message (you can see that your cousins are reading them) and let them know if you don’t hear back from them with a confirmation that they’re coming you’ll take it as a NO and will plan your meals/seating chart accordingly.
Post # 4
I’d send one final message (preferably text instead of FB) and let them know that if you don’t hear back from them by such and such time you will count them as as no. If they decide after that to come, they will not have a meal, unfortunately.
Post # 5
This is so annoying. I’m currently dealing with it. Idk what’s best to do, but I don’t plan on reaching out more then once then counting them out.
Post # 6
If they’re not responding to messages, try straight up calling on the phone and talk with them and have them give you an answer? Or are they not picking up at all? If that’s the case, leave a message on whatever medium they check the most and tell them that if they don’t respond you’ll have to assume they aren’t able to make it.
I only had to chase down one person, but it turned out she thought the deadline was July and not June. My aunt had a huge issue with my cousin’s wedding when none of her college friends bothered RSVPing at all, even when contacted. They just didn’t show up, so “no” was a safe assumption.
Post # 7
I’d second giving them a specific date where you’re going to mark them as not attending. “Hi, just checking in if you’re able to come to our wedding? We’d love to have you there but understand sometimes life gets in the way! We need to get our final numbers to the caterers by (date, probably Saturday?) so there’s food and seats for everyone. If we don’t hear from you by then, we’ll put you down as a no and catch up with you after the wedding.”
Post # 8
Leave a message and tell them that if you don’t hear back from them in the next 24 hours, you will have to assume they are unable to make it, they will not be counted in the catering numbers, and you will miss them at the wedding.