- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015
I have worked at my job for about 10 years now. In that time, I’ve become good friends with my manager and his wife. I started my job at 21 and now I am 30 years old and over the years he’s given me alot of good advice about things and is a pretty smart guy business wise, and for that he has my respect.
However, there is one thing about him that drives me crazy, and that’s the fact that he almost seems to enjoy making me (and other girls in general) feel nervous or insecure about relationships.
He has helped out alot of girls over the years with their relationship troubles and given them advice when it comes to guys. He has also been happily married to his wife for about 16 years now. But he acts almost as if THEY are the ONLY happily married couple in the entire world and that everyone else is in an unhappy marriage.
Any time we talk about relationships or love, he ALWAYS has to hint in SOME way that most relationships will end. He also told me before that when I get married, I better have a prenup in place for “when I get divorced” (because he has said many times that ALL marriages end).
He also has also said borderline hurtful things that I “better settle before I hit 30, because after that your stock goes way down and guys are back to wanting the hot 21 year olds and not the old bags”.
He is always making comments or subtly implying that ultimately, all men are dogs and will eventually get bored or cheat or become abusive, and that very few men or women will find a partner who will truly make them happy.
I dunno. I have to bite my tongue sometimes because he is my manager and I can’t talk back to him. But sometimes I just want him to SHUT UP and quit being so judgmental when it comes to relationships and stop assuming that everyone, except for him, will get divorced.
I honestly don’t care what he thinks personally, but I wish he would just stop making comments that make me feel uneasy about love or pessimistic about love. I find his Know-It-All attitude to be obnoxious and disrespectful.
Has anyone ever dealt with a person like this?