(Closed) People who RSVP, then cancel last minute…what do you do

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
46374 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If it’s a health issue, there really isn’t much that you or they can do.

Post # 4
5242 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

That would make me super angry!! I cant believe she didnt even have the decency to call you but sent a text instead..how rude!!! Good luck with everything this weekend ..it’s supposed to be a great one weather wise!

Post # 5
9674 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wow, that sucks!  All you can do is focus on the joy of marrying the love of your life and don’t feel alone in what happened.  As we all know here on the Bee it happens a lot.

You are so close now!  I can’t wait for the recaps!  🙂  Good luck my dear!!!

Post # 7
1747 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

This happened to me as well, but on the day of, mostly. It was so odd because a bunch of people canceled but then a few people brought unexpected guests with them, which would have been SO annoying, except we were already locked in to the price so I was pretty much singing, “THE MORE THE MERRIER”. LOL. 

There’s nothing really to be done. Just enjoy your day as much as you can and don’t think about it too much.

Post # 10
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We had that. You can’t really do much about it. If you can’t reduce your count, are you being charged extra for vendor meals? We had extra guests meals leftover and we just told the caterers to assign those to the vendors so we didn’t have to pay extra for vendor meals. It doesn’t even out but at least it isn’t all a waste. Our other alternative was to get all those extra meals boxed up to go (which didn’t work for us since no one would be eating those leftover meals).

Post # 11
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m sorry to hear about the health issues. I would text some of your single friends, see if they want to bring a friend. I’d rather have a random person at the wedding than meals that are paid for go to waste.

Post # 12
1917 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would talk to your caterer and see if you can upgrade the bar or the food with the additional funds that you’re committed to spend.  No sense in paying for some extra dinners that no one will eat.

Post # 13
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I had about 5 people not be able to come, but they all had legit reasons (the saddest one being that a couple had just decided to divorce and they were too sad to attend a wedding).

It’s just a fact of wedding planning. Sorry!

Post # 14
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If someone isn’t feeling well, they should stay home and not spread their germs to the rest of the guests! It sucks when people change plans last minute but since you’re already locked into the money, I would just see if I had a neighbor who was free and wanted to go, or a casual acquaintance.

Post # 16
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We had seven (SEVEN!) people not show up to our wedding. It sucked. A lot. That was almost $300 and several more people we could have invited. But there’s not much you can do but grin and bear it. 

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