(Closed) Pep talk for TTC after suspected Ectopic Pregnancy

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
Member
1051 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

candy08 :  I’m really sorry that you had to go through all of this. That’s an awful thing to happen after finding out you’re pregnant. My cousin had an ectopic pregnancy the first time she was pregnant. She was rushed to the hospital after having stabbing pains. Shortly thereafter, she got pregnant with a healthy baby girl and after that, she gave birth to her son… no complications in either pregnancy.

Obviously, it’s a really scary thing to go through and I completely understand being fearful of TTC again. That said, your chances of having another are low. I would just take some time to grieve and try to carry on. 

*hugs*

Post # 3
Member
1192 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I had an ectopic last fall.  I think you did the right thing by ending early.  I found out about mine really late in the game and dispite my numbers decreasing, the pregnancy was growing and attached to a bunch of organs and I ended up loosing the tube and having major surgery.  I had an HSG to make sure my remaining tube is clear.  We have been TTC since February with no luck.  I’m finally feeling less scared about another ectopic.

All that to say, I totally understand the fear and I hope everything goes well for you.

Post # 4
Member
1192 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Also, my ectopic became everyone’s business and I got either people not talking about it OR saying the dumbest things. 

At least you have one baby… (I want a sibling for him.  Is that too much to ask??)

You’ll get pregnant again… (We started TTC May of 2015 and we still don’t have a baby. (Ectopic was Sept. 2015))

At least you are still young… (I’m going to be 30.  We choose to have our children on the younger end, so this isn’t what we wanted.)

 

We wanted them close together.  My son turned 2 this summer.  We wanted 3 or 4 kids, but at this rate I’m not sure we will want to do that because I don’t want to be 40 having kids.  (No judgment, but this is just our preference.)

 

There is nothing like wanting a baby and it just not working out.  I wasn’t too attached to the ectopic yet, but it still makes me sad at times.  I wanted that baby.  That baby would be 6 months old.  🙁

Post # 6
Member
1450 posts
Bumble bee

candy08 :  I’m so sorry you had to go through this.  We went through something similar in June.  I got pregnant on my second round of Clomid but because my body doesn’t produce enough progesterone on it’s own I wasn’t able to maintain the pregnancy.  I’ve blamed myself several times with the “if I would have known sooner maybe things would have been different.”  It’s hard.  I had a good cry last week when the last of our friends told me they were pregnant, so we are now the last couple.  Nothing anyone says is going to make it better. 

But to try and look at the good side you know you can get pregnant.  You guys are capable of getting pregnant despite the challenges with your husband.  If it happened once it will happen again.  That doesn’t replace this pregnancy or make your feelings any less valid or real, but when that day comes it will be a wonderful day!

Post # 9
Member
8077 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

candy08 :  I’m sorry you’re going through that, but unfortunately ectopics are fairly common – I mentioned to my RE that one cousin has one and that another cousin had a miscarriage and he said that practically everyone has a family history of it somewhere. The good news is that both of my cousins went on to have happy healthy little girls on their next pregnancies! 

Post # 10
Member
1192 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

candy08 :  Thank you.  I apprecite your thoughts and prayers.  I have 0 risk factors for having an ectopic.  I (and they) do not understand why it happened.  I really hope it was a one time thing.  I’ll keep you guys in my thoughts and prayers for a healthy baby!

Post # 13
Member
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

candy08 :  I’m so sorry! My fiance also had cancer and went through chemo; finished his last round in December and now we’re TTC.  I had an ectopic before we found out he had cancer and it was brutal.  We were able to freeze 4 vials of sperm before he started RCHOP.  I read that sperm can start coming back as early as 6 months (if ever) after chemo but many advise to wait 2 years.  We plan to do IUI or IVF in December.  Scary stuff….best of luck to you and your husband!!!

Post # 14
Member
11 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Candy08 thank you for starting this post. I have just found out (after a BFP only this time last week) that my pregnancy is ectopic and am now in the horrible stage of being monitored by the hosp and hoping it terminates naturally soon, so as to avoid the chemo drug or losing a Fallopian tube. 

We only knew about this baby for a week so I suppose we weren’t too attached to it yet, but I am so sad and also frightened about my future fertility. The positive stories on this thread are very helpful. 

Post # 15
Member
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

BIG HUGS! I hope things are successful with your next IUI! 

The topic ‘Pep talk for TTC after suspected Ectopic Pregnancy’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors