(Closed) Per House or Per Adult?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Personally, I would do them separately per adult child.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would do them separately if they’re adults. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

We have one family in particular that all live in the same household (parents and their two kids, plus their kids). I sent the invites separately to each adult in the household. It will be way easier on YOU when you get easy to read and separate response cards! 🙂

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

There were two houses on my list that received two invitations.  My Brother-In-Law and SIL live with husband’s parents, and my cousin lives at home, also. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would do them separately.  I did make an exception to this for an aunt/uncle who’s college aged children may or may not live with them (we obviously aren’t close).  For them I just put “The Smith Family”  And they never even RSVP’d.  

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

my rule was everyone over 18 got their own invite regardless of address.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Per adult. Adults are not included on parent invites.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would do one for the grandparents, one for the parents & one for the grandchild & her husband.. they’re all adults & in serious relationships.. they should each get their own invite. IMO

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think etiquette says all adults receive their own invite regardless of where they live.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Your situtation is a little different than mine but yes, I know what ettiquette says, and it says I should send my grandmother 1 invite and my father who is living with her while she transitions from loosing her husband a seperate invite.  But I also know that my grandmother and father would be really confused as to why the exact same invite came to the exact same house 2 different times.  To me, it just seems silly.  But it’s also my dad and gma. (I’m addressing their names on two different lines).

If it was my grandmother, my aunt and her family, I may do two to recognize the two different families and allowing them to rsvp accordingly.

I also have a few people on my list where their children (over 18) still live in the same house and I’m just doing 1 invite.  Again, it just seems like a waste of an invite when the family is  a whole unit regardless of age.  (Again, 2 families under one roof might make more sense).

 

I think it’s all situational.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

As an adult who lived with her parents until she was 24, it always annoyed me not to get my own invite. Little things like that matter.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Definitely per adult. I even have adult single children living with parents and I’m sending them their own invitation. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@red_pepper_gal:  +1. I still live at home at 25 and will until I’m married. I live with my mom, but my dad always gets invites from his side of the family and they always put my name on his invitation instead of giving me my own invitation, it drives me nuts. 

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