(Closed) Percentage of Guest list showed up??? HELP!!!

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: How many people showed or have RSVP'ed yes??
    Less than 50% showed : (2 votes)
    4 %
    51 - 65% : (7 votes)
    16 %
    66 - 80% : (10 votes)
    22 %
    81% + most everyone showed : (26 votes)
    58 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    YIKES!  I would not be okay with that and would put my foot down if I were you.  It’s your wedding not hers.  I would be very upset as a guest if I arrived and there wasn’t enough seating or food at the wedding I was invited to.

    We had 115 guests, one was a no-show.  He was a teenager.

    Post # 5
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    40% is a seriously high percentage.  I wouldn’t budget/allot space for one single human being over your dollar or capacity limit.  You could certainly have 100% of people show up, or very close to it.

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I think it really depends.  I think the more you invite the higher percentage that won’t show up b/c they’re not invested in you / don’t know you.  I only had two out of 138 that said no,  but that being said other than 10 randoms everyone was a close friend or family.

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I think it depends on the situation. We “invited” like 225 but we knew that a good chunk of those wouldn’t be able to come. They were relatives who live across the country and don’t have the money to travel for a wedding. So of the 225 we expected about 110 to come, because of the 225 only about 180-175 were local. We ended up with about 105.

    So basically I’m saying, it’s not always about “expected percentages”. Go through your list and objectively say, “Do I really think this person will come? Are they close to us? Are they local? Do they have the money?” That worked a lot better for us than just randomly saying 40%

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    The only “yes” who  no-showed broke her foot on the way to the airport and had to go to the ER.  

    We invited around 80 and had 74? come.  100% had to fly to get there too.  Granted next 80 people that we would have invited would have been less motivated than the first since they wouldn’t have been as close with us.  

    Unless there’s something about your wedding that makes it a special pain in the ass…like it’s on a tuesday at dinnertime and you’re not serving food or alcohol…most people want to come celebrate with you.

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    @ms.oregon.state: We invited 142 friends and family, 70 rsvp’d yes. Out of those 70, we had 68 show up at the wedding. We were aiming for about 100 people at the wedding, but I really liked the size wedding we had.

    I don’t blame you at all for being upset with Future Mother-In-Law. My mom and I clashed on the guest list too. From my perspective, if you invite 230 people, you may well end up with 230 attending. Unfortunately every wedding is going to be different. I don’t know that you can always count on a certain % not attending.

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    @ms.oregon.state: Yea, it’s always going to be a toss up. I was scared for a few months that everyone and their brother would bring their kids and that would inflate the list by like 40.

    What you can do is send them in waves. Send a chunk of your invites out (in groups so that Aunt Daisy gets one when Aunt Suzie does, etc.) and wait for some responses. Then send another group. You can still send invites within about 6-8 weeks of your wedding to people who are lower on the list (like to invite but not must invites) after you’ve gotten a good number of your declines back.

    It’s a scary way to do it, but if you have a really specific max/min for your venue sometimes it’s necessary. Try not to freak about it, everything will work out fine.

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    @ms.oregon.state:lol, I hear you. I’d say tell her that you’ll pay for 100 and anyone past that who comes she gets to pay for 😉

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Tell her to put an announcement in the dam paper instead of paying for all those invites and postage! OR just send out announcements!

    Post # 16
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2012

    i’m surprised there aren’t more people in the 75% category

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