Post # 1
I had a wedding-planning session with my mom, sister, and Maid/Matron of Honor yesterday, during which I discussed my concerns with the bar situation. My venue provides the bar and bartender, but leaves the choice of open or cash bar up to us. I have never been to a wedding in my adult life, and don’t remember weddings from my childhood, so I was very unsure of which direction to go. I didn’t want to foot the bill of an open bar when most of our guests are moderate-heavy drinkers (my mom managed a bar for 15ish years, so there are a lot of connections to people who like to drink LOL) but I wasn’t sure if people would be offended by a cash bar. Plus, how would I inform our 100+ guests that they had to bring cash if they wanted to drink? Logistics!
Well, I’m happy to say that I think my mom came up with the perfect compromise! She suggested buying personalized bar chips (not sure if these are common in the Lower 48 and beyond, but it’s a little chip that represents one free drink), and handing out 1-2 to our drinking guests. So basically, we’d pay for the first 1-2 drinks, and if guests wanted any more than that they could pay for the drinks themselves.
Thoughts?! I’m pretty happy about this idea!
Post # 3
we call those drink tickets. I think 1 ticket is quite cheap looking. I’d reccomend 3 tickets each.
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
i like the idea! definitely more than one, though.
i will probably be doing this myself- there are also heavy drinkers on both sides for us
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I think this “ticket” system is pretty common. That way you’re still giving them something, but if they want to drink more, that’s up to them. I know I’d be perfectly happy with two drinks…
Post # 6
I think that drink tickets (or chips) are a great compromise.
(side note: I have tons of family from Wasilla, can’t wait to visit there next summer)
Post # 7
I’m not crazy about this, i’d think a perfect compromise would be to only serve what you can afford. Perhaps just beer and wine?
Post # 8
I agree. Can you just do open bar for beer and wine? IMO drink tickets are very cheap looking and worse than a cash bar.
Post # 9
Sounds like this will work great for you – but you still have the logistics of telling people they will need cash (or cards if the bar accepts them) if they want more than one or two drinks.
Post # 10
I’ve been to a couple of weddings with drink tickets. I’d give each person at least two.
Also, you probably will want to make signs for the bar that explain what is included. Like – can they get soft drinks for free? Or do they have to use a ticket on that?
Will there be water/tea/something else on the tables for free?
Post # 11
Can you set upa wedding website and announce it on there? Then spread word of mouth about the website and the ticket situation
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings
I agree with several above posters. I think this still looks cheap, maybe cheaper than a cash bar, and you will still have to tell guests to bring money. They way I figure, if you give them 1 chips/ tickets that is 1 drink for cocktail hour and 2 chips mean 1 drink for cocktail and 1 for toasting. If this is common in your area scratch the above, but I would say just have a dry wedding over this. Or have a keg and get some cases of wine and have the bar be open.
Post # 14
I think it’s a great compromise! 2 tickets would be perfect.
Post # 15
I agree with the ladies who think it would be better to just offer beer and wine than limit your guests. I get that you have heavy drinkers coming, but they are still your guests and it is still your party. I always think you should just go with what you can afford to provide, and not make your guests pay for anything at your party.
Post # 16
To the OP, you’d be offended and put out if someone invited you to their home, then gave you 2 drink tickets and told you to pay for the rest of your drinks, right?
This is the same thing.