(Closed) Perfect guest list amount, what is the perfect number?

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I think it comes down to who you want to be there.  There’s no ‘magic’ number that is best.

Post # 4
818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

The "magic" number is differnt for everyone. My number is 250 and FI’s number is about 50 so we’re going with 250-300. 🙂

Post # 5
2640 posts
Sugar bee

Well I think you’d notice the difference between 150 and 400.  I’m not sure what the person was saying with that comment.  I think most people are going  to tell you there is no perfect number.  Some people like huge parties.  Some people like very small gatherings.  It just depends on personalities etc.  Also, sometimes what we think we want, is just not meant to be.  Whether lack of funds cause you to limit your guest list, or you’d like an intimate wedding but have a large family, or vice versa, sometimes you have to go with the flow.

Post # 6
160 posts
Blushing bee

I agree with the others… there’s really no number – I will say that you should know everyone at your wedding, so if you have 300 close friends and family, go for it….but don’t invite people just to have a "big wedding" or because you think it might be funner with more people. For us, more people = more stress, so our perfect number is around 50. But the great thing about being the bride is groom is its up to you 🙂 

Post # 7
2022 posts
Buzzing bee

It totally depends on your personalities, how big of a family you have, and how intimate you want it to be.  We are inviting 215 but expecting around 175-185.  Perfect for us.

Post # 8
898 posts
Busy bee

I think my fiance would rather have a number close to 3. Just us and an officiant. I could easily come up with a number well over 100.

But when it comes down to it, I think even if my budget wasn’t a major factor, I’d still be having a very small number. We’ll probably invite about 70. I agree that it has to do with personalities, and also I’d rather do without all the stress of a large wedding.

Post # 9
232 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

totally up to you!  our ‘magic number’ is 100, and we are inviting 136 (including kids).  we are thinking 80-100 will show up.

Post # 10
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Well i def think it depends on the couple. . .  For me there really isnt a specific number. . it would just be lots of people we know and love with alot of dancing and fun. . not too formal

Post # 11
1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I don’t think there is a magic number. If someone I want to be there can’t make it, filling the spot doesn’t help me have a better time.

Post # 13
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I have heard from people who have had 300+ person weddings that while they were fun and stuff, they didn’t really get to spend time with all their guests. Typically, they’ve all told me they wish they could have scaled back to about half. I have a coworker who had 500 and he said it was crazy. But those who have had receptions of about 150 people seem to be the most satisfied with their weddings it seems. Or those small, cute beach weddings with only 20. Because then only their closest family/friends are there. At least amongst my group of friends, it seems 150ish is the magic number. I was told that if I have more than 150, expect to either a) not see them or b) spend all night greeting your guests and not having your own fun. Since my Fiance and I are paying for it ourselves, I don’t feel obligated to meet everyone in the family. I expect to have a few drinks (my Fiance can’t believe i’m going to drink at my own wedding…uhhh???) and bust a move

But hoenstly, whatever works for you! My Fiance and I were hoping for 155 (the required # of plates our reception makes us pay for) but I think we’ll end up around 170. I prefer a more intimate party where I can meet my FI’s family and I can have all my close friends there. 

Post # 14
2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think our ‘magic number’ is 175 but we are probably inviting 225.

Post # 15
619 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It depends on each person and their situation. If money’s an issure then obviously you’d want to keep numbers down and have something small (under 100). If money isn’t an issue, then invite everyone who you want there and whatever number that equals to then so be it. Where I live (Spain) wedding are usually 250-300 guest. 

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