(Closed) Perfectionism is killing my happiness

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
1715 posts
Bumble bee

@MrsFuzzyFace:  From what my doctor has told me is that seasonal associational depression disorder (or SADD the snarky bastards) is closely related to our absorbstion of vit  D we get from longer hours of the sun being out.


I have been dealing with it for years. I would  look into a vit d supplement and a sun lamp, before shelling out lots of money for pharmaceuticals.

Post # 4
1069 posts
Bumble bee

I’m sorry to hear about your friend, I can’t imagine how hard that must be for everyone.

I struggle this time of year too. It’s hard when you go to work in the dark, come home in the dark and it feels like you have a million things to do but no energy to get it all done. I’m having a really hard time at work lately and it’s flowed over into my personal life and so right now it’s been worse than normal.

I found that Vitamin D has really helped me… I can feel a difference when I don’t take it (maybe it’s a placebo effect, but either way it works). Working out helps for me too because it keeps my energy levels up when all I want to do is sleep. Also, finding something else to do or a TV show to just bury myself into for a while is relaxing to me and helps calm the negative feelings.

Post # 5
993 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m sorry you’re down.  That’s awful that your friend has cancer 🙁  hugs!

You aren’t a failure!  You’re a beautiful, amazing woman.  And come on, since when did kids ever get along all the time?  

Make sure you’re taking good care of yourself, take a little time for you.  Bubble baths, yoga, running, reading, cook your favourite food, watch your favourite shows… just do whatever it is that you need all for yourself to perk up.  There’s nothing wrong with that!  Make time for it.

I agree with vitamin D supplements, since its darker so much more in the winter we don’t get enough of it.  You can get drops and put them in a smoothie if you aren’t used to taking supplements.  I also use B12 as a perk-up.

Journalling helps me when I’m down, and sometimes just talking to friends instead of a therapist can do wonders.  

The bee is here if you need to talk/rant/let it all out!

Post # 7
687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think social media these days is really not helping the situation either…as sad as it is to say. So many posts on Pinterest, Instagram or Facebook make you think you’re house isn’t decorated perfectly, you’re not spending hours in the kitchen whipping up healthy recipes, you don’t have a body like an olympic gymnast or that you should be in thailand rafting down a jungle river with elephants beside you. I think people struggle to be happy with what they have (not directed towards anyone here, just a general comment), even I struggle with this sometimes, but it’s so easy these days to focus on what other people have which in turn makes us realize what we don’t have.

But on the flip side, WB would be considered social media and it’s definitely a good place where we can get support from each other when we need it 🙂

The topic ‘Perfectionism is killing my happiness’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors