(Closed) Perhaps a gentle shove might hurry it up?!

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If you know it’s coming soon…isn’t it more fun to kind of let it unfold naturally and let him plan it by himself.  You should definitely plan to go away for the weekend for your anniversary if you guys want to, but I think you should let him do his thing.  I doubt he changed his mind, but maybe didn’t feel like the right moment came while you were on vacation. 

Post # 4
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My 10 year anniversary was coming up and I figured he’d propose on that day…he ended up asking one week early because he wanted it to be a surprise. Even though I knew it was coming, he still found a way to surprise me and it made it ten times better.  I little push can’t hurt and your plans seem wonderful for your anniversary, but let it all unfold and be surprised – you will be happier 🙂 

Post # 5
1585 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If you talk about it, it will take longer.  I know it is hard but once you stop worrying about it, it will happen!!!  It did for me.

Post # 6
1981 posts
Buzzing bee

I really don’t advise doing this unless you want to be disappointed. We went away two days before I got engaged… I wanted him to do it then and I was sorely disappointed. Good luck and just be patient!! Vent to us, we’ll listen 🙂

Post # 8
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I know what you mean.  Sometimes I wish I could remove the front part of my brain because that’s all that is there.  Weddings, rings, furniture, moving….all things that are tied to a proposal….It’s so hard to just wonder and wait!!!

Post # 9
1479 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I knew Fiance had my ring for weeks before he finally proposed, and the only way I got through it with my sanity was to NOT assume that every dinner, special occasion, and romantic night out could be “the proposal”.  The eventual proposal was so special and romantic, and I’m sure yours will be too. 

It’s coming!  Be patient and be sure to let us know the instant he proposes! 🙂

Post # 10
2777 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

It sounds like he found out and he didn’t want you to not be surprised. I was convinced that FH would propose on either my or his birthday and when it didn’t come I was so disappointed. He ended up totally surprising me 2 weeks later. Let him surprise you in his own time, you already know he has the ring. It’s only a matter of time now.

Post # 11
1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

You have really really got to relax on this–you’re going to make yourself and him nutty.  You know it’s coming, so now you can just enjoy the anticipation.  Meanwhile, instead of focusing your energy on planning a romantic weekend that might end up disappointing you, focus your energy on something entirely unrelated to your relationship and getting engaged.  It will make you happier, healthier, and will in turn make your relationship better.  Have you read Mr. Bee’s steps to getting engaged?  I don’t have the link, but maybe someone else does?  Basically he says that you need to start focusing on you–go out with friends, get a new hair cut, set goals for yourself and work to achieve them.  When you stop obsessing over getting engaged, things tend to fall into place.  Now–breathe.

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