(Closed) perhaps I’m neurotic, but…

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
Member
5498 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

It weirds me, out too! haha. He won’t be the one spending hours in labor after 9 months of carrying a human being!

Post # 4
Member
2765 posts
Sugar bee

I never said that phrase myself, but I found that the whole societal reaction to pregnancy is pretty dismissive of men.

If some guys clings to that one phrase as a way to feel connected to the pregnancy process, I don’t think it’s the worst thing in the world.

Post # 6
Member
7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I say it.  I don’t think it’s so weird.  We did it together.  He held my hair back when I puked.  He’s fed the dog for the last 7.5 months because I couldn’t tolerate the food.  He’s done all the dishes.  Baby wiggles like crazy when she hears his voice.  We’re doing this together (and I’m so glad of that!).  I’m super happy that “we’re” pregnant!

Post # 7
Member
2765 posts
Sugar bee

I agree it’s not completely accurate, and I wouldn’t suggest that I did even 1% of the work of pregnancy (that was all Mrs. Bee!).  I’ve never said those words myself, for the same reasons.

But when I hear a woman says that phrase, I always think that is nice of her to be so inclusive!

Post # 8
Member
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I say “we’re pregnant.” I think it’s appropriate as an editorial we.

Besides, I may be baking the baby, but I just can’t discount my husbands contribution or commitment to this process. I’m fairly certain I’ll put him through the wringer more than once in the coming months!

Post # 9
Member
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think it’s fine to say – it takes two to make a baby, so even though the one if carrying the child, the other person was involved in the process.

Post # 10
Member
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’m with you… I don’t like the phrasing. I do dismiss it because I figure they’re just exciting and that’s kind of cute. But still… “we” are having a baby. “we” are not pregnant. 

Also agree with you on “literally.” 

Post # 11
Member
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think it just sounds weird when a man says “we’re pregnant”.

Post # 12
Member
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

I say both “we’re pregnant” and “we’re having a baby.”  Like DG said, he may not be carrying the baby, but he’s dealing with all the side effects of me carrying the baby.  I don’t know, this might be something you only understand when you are pregnant.

Post # 13
Member
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2007 - Rosary Chapel & Monterey Marriott, Monterey, CA

I’d get weird looks when I said it, but I meant it. He dealt with the pregnancy just as much as I did… as the physical side effects that only I experienced were equally matched by the emotional ones that he dealt with exclusively.

It may sound weird, but it was a joint 9-month effort, and now it’s a joint lifelong effort as well!

Post # 14
Member
461 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I don’t like it either.

Does the father have a role? Yes.

Is his role just as important? Yes.

Is the father pregnant?  Nope.

 

Post # 15
Member
461 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I also think “we’re expecting” is nice though, “expecting” being a word that sometimes substitutes for “pregnant,” but not being “pregnant.”  It’s a more inclusive term that is still not “we’re pregnant.”

It’s personal preference.

Post # 16
Member
510 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I don’t know…I kinda like it…I would probably say “we’re pregnant” just because I like the fact that we both have had a part in the process, even though i’m the only carrier 🙂

also a friend of mine just had a baby and someone commented that since the baby looks just like the father, he just “spit him out”…she got offended, because she was the “pregnant one” and I felt kinda sad for the father, she acted like he had no part in the process…

The topic ‘perhaps I’m neurotic, but…’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors