Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
DH and I are going into our fifth month of TTC. This past month I thought we had succeeded. My period was late (normally my cycle is 28-29 days), I was nauseated, constipated, a little crampy, moody, sore breasts, bloated ETC. This morning my period was exactly seven days late. In the shower, however, I noticed some brown discharge tinged with red. All those ‘symptoms’ that the internet was telling me were symptoms of pregnancy, were just a weird period. I REALLY got my hopes up this time. I haven’t had a late period since my early teens, so I figured this was my time.
I just really bummed out and wanted to share.
Post # 2
Have you taken a test to confirm if you are pregnant? You could be expereicing an early miscarage if you are really that regular. Sorry to hear about your disappointment! Hugs
Post # 3
Huge Hugs!!!!! I am sorry 🙁 can I ask if you took an HPT when you thought you were late? I don’t want to give your hopes up, but maybe this isn’t a period but maybe just pregnancy spotting. Again, I am not trying to get your hopes up, just trying to see all possibilities.
Post # 4
If you are only (I know–“only”–but) into your 5th month trying, I would recommend that you wait until 2 weeks AFTER your period to test. I’m saying this because the likelihood of a chemical pregnancy (a very early miscarriage–called so becuase the only thing that confirms you are pregnant is the test; ie, you haven’t had an ultrasound or anything) is as high as 75% in the first two weeks, and testing on your period (or earlier) isn’t going to change those stats. Then, if you do have a chemical pregnancy, knowing that you did will probably make you feel worse, even though it is a normal thing to go through and chances are, the embryo was either a) nonexistent or b) not viable anyway. This is also why most doctors don’t want to see you until 8 weeks or so because the likelihood of miscarriage is high and because there’s no way to really confirm the pregnancy until the baby can show up on the ultrasound and there’s some way of detecting a heartbeat.
I mean, it depends a bit on your personality–some people really, really just want to know either way–but for me, it was causing a lot of unnecessary fretting to know so early. I’m really sorry. I know it’s disappointing.
ETA: I am NOT saying that you DID have a chemical pregnancy–your cycle could have just been off for any number of reasons–just brought it up to explain why I would wait to test.
Post # 5
sorry to hear this bee 🙁 I just got my AF yesterday as well, so this is the 6th month that it hasnt happened so we are about in the same spot.. 🙁 Its so hard. I know it hasnt even been that long but it feels like its been forever & like that BFP is so far away!
Sorry im a downer, but i just want you to know youre not alone! Hope it happens for both of us very, very soon bee! Onto the next month. 🙂
Post # 6
I’m so sorry 🙁 I can imagine I’d be just as devastated!! My period is SO regular, that if I were a week late, I would be 100% convinced I was pregnant too. Fx that your next cycle is the one!
Post # 7
While I agree with the medical aspects of what @BothCoasts is saying, and emotionally it may make sense… after all ignorance is bliss. But from a knowledge stand point, tracking your cycles and knowing about any chemical pregnancy is “good” knowledge to have should you have fertility issues and need to see a specialist about it. It’s all information they would need to know to better be able to treat someone. Some people have no problem getting pregnant, but have problems staying pregnant… and knowing this earlier on may save a lot more heartache down the road too.