(Closed) person with same business in same town as FI starting problems on FB…

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 2
3829 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

i would ignore her. She needs to realize a little healthy competition is not illegal. She probably feels threatened but if she acts like this people probably wont want to deal with her. 


Post # 3
2783 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Opinions are like assholes: everybody’s got one. She is probably just threatened by your Fiance, because no one is doing what she does, and she’s worried she’ll lose business. I vote the best thing to do is not engage her…..I’d ignore her msg. If she genuinely wanted to help, she would have msged him.

Post # 4
471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

chica95110:  It sounds like she’s just trying to undermine his confidence and scare him off. Ignore her. As the PP’s said, she’s just threatened. 

Post # 6
4508 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would either ignore the message or send back a polite “Thank you for letting us know your concerns” and just keep doing exactly what you are doing.

Don’t start private messaging individuals you don’t know, though. I’d be irritated if I got business advertising via PM and would probably block whoever sent it.

Post # 7
2546 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

chica95110:  I think posing in community forums/pages are okay, and I see alot of my local business doing that. I would double check the group rules though, alot of them ask that you do not advertise for yourself… I would either not respond to the message from the other woman, or respond with a short but polite “thank you very much for your concerns”. Did you say you initally contacted her  asking questions about her business model/office? If so, that right there is why she sent you the message saying you don’t know what your doing. Generally, it’s a good idea to not go to the competition for ideas/pointers and if I were her I would think you weren’t familiar with the business if your asking a competitor about these things.. Or did I misunderstand that part?

I would not start private messaging or messaging anyone you do not know. I’ve been contacted by random business and while the messages are very polite they rub me the wrong way & I end up blocking the sender. I think today for most businesses facebook is an essential tool, but it really all depends on how poplular and used it is in your area and target customers. Have you thought about paying for the FB ads? I think you can put a cap on them so you can control your costs (used to be you paid per view, not sure if it’s still the same), and you can target specific groups/areas/ages/etc… Also, handing out business cards in person is still a good idea as is print ads in newspapers/journals/magazines- many local small publications do not charge an arm & a leg for print ads… 

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Post # 8
2455 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I think this situation could use a few more details.  What is the business?  Is it something “unique” or is it something like Mary Kay/Herbalife/Lia Sophia?  If it’s the latter, this lady could be concerned about something your husband is doing that would make the entire name look bad.  (I personally can’t stand Herbalife because of one specific person who posted on his FB constantly about his business with Herbalife.)

For the most part, I wouldn’t mind a community post once in a while.  More than once a month would be really annoying though, and if everyone started doing it, I would opt out.  PM messages would put me in an awkward position of feeling like I need to say something.  If you did that often enough, I would block you.  I like traditional business cards.

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