- 6 years ago
This is my very first post. I started reading other posts and really loved the support, caring and love that was shown through each response.
I was single for 2 years which was the best tging i ever did for myself. I went from relationship to relationship and finally I realized I needed to learn to be okay with being single and to know what i wanted and what i didnt. I met my boyfriend that I have been with for almost 2 years now. When we met I was working on my masters in clinical psychology and just got a promotion from work. My life was very full since both work and school were full time. Last summer I graduated with my MS and applied for my phd in human and organizational systems which I was accepted into and was supposed to have started the end of 2011. I was the assistant to the CEO of a multi million dollar company. Prior I was in a lower position and it was everything I wanted as far as seeing the business side of the company and not just dealing with clients. I dealt with clients as a supervisor for 2 years and then became the CEOs assistant for a year. After the marketing director was let go because of overspending and showing nothing for it, I went to the CEO and said that I wasn’t interested in filling that position but rather strategizing and making sure IT, SEO and our web developers were all on the same page. He agreed and said he didn’t want to loose me as his assistant if the position wasn’t right for me so we would do it on a one month trial. I was happy for the opportunity even though I wasn’t being paid nearly what I should have been. After being sent to SEO training so I could manage and basically learn a new language he said he didn’t see me telling someone older than me what to do. I really have never been that type but rather to put ideas and minds together to make things happen and create new ideas. I said I basically just need an answer as to if you want me as your assistant than great, if you want me to manage projects great too but I can’t do both. I had started all the social media marketing, posting everyday to multiple blogs, facebook pages and also tracking and developing other websites for books that he had written, etc. Finally I got called into the administrators office with HR who said that my position was being eliminated. I said which one is that? She said he said that he feels there isn’t enough work for you. I was shocked but at the time relieved from working 24-7 for 3 months trying to get things back up and running. I also knew that it was going to be so much with my PhD I was wondering what was going to give or if I could even manage it all.
What hurts the most is that he couldn’t even tell me himself. I would help him pick up his daughter, go at 5am in the morning to Fox News so he didn’t have to be alone. Its been almost 6 months and I go back and forth on writing him a letter. Not to be mean but I justfeel like I need closure or something. What do you think?
Three weeks after being laid off I got pregnant on the pill. And trust me, I did NOT want kids so I was very diligent about taking it. The hardest and most regretful thing I have ever done was to have an abortion. I had one in my early 20s but I knew that the guy wasn’t for me and never regretted it for a moment. I also took the abortion pill but this time I couldn’t. Even though I was put out for it, I was starting to show at 9 weeks and having never wanted children I loved being pregnant. It was the most beautiful thing when you find the one and a part of both of you are in there, growing together. The main reason I had theprocedure was because of a medication I was taking and my boyfriend who is a doctor felt it was too much of a risk. I also was thinking of starting school in the back of my mind and how difficult it would be.
There was a 5 day orientation for school that you had to attend and I was so sick. I asked the director in charge what my options are if I missed the last two days and she said it wasn’t a problem and that she would catch me up. Well, that wasn’t the case. The dean called me and said no exceptions were going to be made and I would have to wait until the next student orientation which was in 6 months, the first week in May.
Since I have unemployment I had planned on seeing how intense it would be then take a part time job or full depending on that but I feel like I have been stuck and down for so long. I wish my boyfriend would understand better as he says hasn’t it been like 6 months?
Then there’s the financial aspect that is really pissing me off. Even before I lived there I helped pay utilities just to show him that I am willing to help out. Now that I can’t but I do pay for all groceries, do all grocery shipping, laundry, cleaning, cooking, etc. He asks me where all my money goes. Before we met he bought a 1.2 million dollar home and his mortgage is a lot and I tell him how much I appreciate all his hard work, but I also feel that he made that decision. I wouldn’t have because it’s too much for your first house. He says I have more spending money than he does but I know his dad helps him out as part of an agreemehad they had when he bought the house.
I don’t know if I’m beingunreasonable since I know he pays the mortgage but I feel like everything I have goes to our relationship and I don’t mind contributing but when I’m struggling and he is off buying new scopes for his guns, it makes me wonder if I should be having second thoughts.
What do you think?