- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I made a new SN because I didn’t want drama/backlash – just getting that out of the way. Another warning – rant ahead.
I’ve noticed a bully on these boards, who I have reported to the mods multiple times. I have absolutely nothing personal against any poster here, and this person can actually be quite witty, funny, intelligent, and helpful at times – but other times, they’re just plain mean. As in, the only reason they’ve posted was to direct snark at the OP and there’s absolutely nothing relevant to the original purpose of the thread at all.
Nothing has ever once come of me reporting her comments, yet a comment of mine was deleted as a personal attack when I made one honest remark to her about her responses being seemingly snarky (that’s pretty much all I said – I don’t want to drag up the exact quote, but it was NOT cruel or cutting in any way). Mind you, this was in a thread that was a total sh*tshow, everyone else was at each others’ throats and my seemingly innocuous comment in response to the storm was deleted while her blatant attacks were left standing totally unmoderated. Also I was at my wit’s end and my jaw was almost to the floor with this person’s rudeness level. OK, fine, I’m a big girl and I seriously don’t care about my own comment being deleted, it’s not about that – but why is it OK for certain Bees to break to no snark/no personal attack rule and be BLATANTLY aggressive and antagonistic time and time again with zero editing? I even emailed WB about this particular issue and nothing came of it, it continues on. I wouldn’t even care if it wasn’t so prevelant, if I didn’t see it happen all the time.
I’ve seen the snark and bitchiness go on with this Bee since I first joined the boards. There are a lot of times where I’ll disagree with someone’s attitude or what they’re saying but I’m not offended easily and I rarely report anything other than spam. I don’t want this person banned, punished, chastised, or ANYTHING other than to see comments which are in obvious violation to the snark rules be deleted. So this isn’t even anything against a specific Bee, it’s not a vendetta, this rant is more about moderation style in general.
In my view, there are so many places on the internet that are MADE for snarking (some of which I frequent!). There’s no need to drag that into a place that specifically states a no-snark policy centimeters away from the text box.
I guess the only thing I can really do is ignore it, because I know any comment I make about the matter, no matter how gently worded, will be deleted. Reporting to the moderators will be ignored. I was also outright ignored by a specific moderator (the one who deleted my post) when I sent her a PM asking legitimate questions about this situation – a PM with no cursing, no attacks, no unreasonable outbursts. Just asking for clarification. I just don’t like that the rules don’t seem to apply to certain people.
Well, I guess I feel better having gotten all of this off my chest. I just needed a steam release with this issue. The only thing I can do is try to ignore this person’s mean, snarky posts, which is pretty much what I’ve been doing all along except the one time when I couldn’t take it anymore and had to comment on it.