Post # 1
The friend I asked to be my personal attendant can’t make it to the wedding rehearsal because she can’t get off from work. Will it be a problem to have her only be there starting the morning of the wedding? I’m not exactly clear what all is required of a personal attendant.
Post # 3
I also don’t know what’s required of a personal attendant, so I’m guessing you’re supposed to let her know what you expect. I don’t know how it differs from a bridesmaid.
If you have no idea what one does, perhaps you don’t need one- which means it’s not a problem for her not to be there!
Post # 4
What’s a personal attendant? I have never heard of this! I’m also confused as to why you would ask someone to help you with something without knowing what you need.
I think your bridesmaids should be more than enough for any attending you might want. I think the best way to figure this out with them would be ahead of the rehearsal – think about anything you might need help with and ask each girl ahead of time.
Post # 5
I thought a personal attendant was the person who helps the bride all day? Like helps her get dressed, gets her drinks and food during the day, makes sure she’s feeling ok, deals with any little things that come up (people needing directions or vendors calling for confirmations), etc… I also thought the personal attendant was the person who fluffed out the bride’s train before she walked down the aisle. If your personal attendant is doing that kind of stuff, I don’t think she needs to be at the rehearsal. You can just tell her what do during the ceremony; I don’t think it’s too complicated.
Post # 6
@Mrs. Spring that’s what I’m pretty sure they do. I wasn’t planning on having one, but everyone I know has one here in Nebraska. I know some of my friends have even had 2-3 personal attendants!! The reason why I want one is I think it’s really helpful before the ceremony to kind of have a “runner” since me and my bridesmaids will be busy with hair/pictures/etc. And the PA can easier keep the guys under control and on track since we’ll be split up before the wedding. I think if you were having a wedding planner it totally wouldn’t be neccesary.
I just didn’t know if it was important for them to be at the rehearsal/dinner so they meet everyone and are familar with the church.
Post # 7
Are you having her stand up for you at the wedding like a bridesmaid? If so, you might want to just give her a gist of the ceremony beforehand. We practiced placement without the officiant at the rehearsal but she helped to fix it on the wedding day.
Post # 8
I was a personal attendant for a friend’s wedding and I didn’t go to the rehearsal, and it wasn’t a problem. The personal attendant’s duties are along the lines of finding things that might have been forgotten or overlooked, helping the bride with carrying stuff/emergency bag, staying with bride until right before the ceremony, making sure she gets something to eat and drink before the ceremony, helping the bride get dressed, fix or touch-uphair & makeup if need be, deal with minor crises the bride doesn’t need to know about, etc. I think the point of having a personal attendant is to have someone there who can just focus on you, and keep you calm, since the bridesmaids and MOB have to deal with their own stuff.
Post # 9
Perfect @appleblossom. I think I feel comfortable with having her just the day of. And she’s already married so I think she should have a good idea of how she can help.
And no @MissAsB, I’m not having her stand up at the service so we’re on our own while we’re up there, but good point, if she were up there that would help.