(Closed) personal attendant question

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I also don’t know what’s required of a personal attendant, so I’m guessing you’re supposed to let her know what you expect. I don’t know how it differs from a bridesmaid.

If you have no idea what one does, perhaps you don’t need one- which means it’s not a problem for her not to be there!

Post # 4
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1565 posts
Bumble bee

What’s a personal attendant? I have never heard of this! I’m also confused as to why you would ask someone to help you with something without knowing what you need. 

I think your bridesmaids should be more than enough for any attending you might want. I think the best way to figure this out with them would be ahead of the rehearsal – think about anything you might need help with and ask each girl ahead of time. 

Post # 5
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6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I thought a personal attendant was the person who helps the bride all day?  Like helps her get dressed, gets her drinks and food during the day, makes sure she’s feeling ok, deals with any little things that come up (people needing directions or vendors calling for confirmations), etc…  I also thought the personal attendant was the person  who fluffed out the bride’s train before she walked down the aisle.  If your personal attendant is doing that kind of stuff, I don’t think she needs to be at the rehearsal.  You can just tell her what do during the ceremony; I don’t think it’s too complicated.

Post # 7
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Are you having her stand up for you at the wedding like a bridesmaid?  If so, you might want to just give her a gist of the ceremony beforehand.  We practiced placement without the officiant at the rehearsal but she helped to fix it on the wedding day.

Post # 8
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303 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I was a personal attendant for a friend’s wedding and I didn’t go to the rehearsal, and it wasn’t a problem. The personal attendant’s duties are along the lines of finding things that might have been forgotten or overlooked, helping the bride with carrying stuff/emergency bag, staying with bride until right before the ceremony, making sure she gets something to eat and drink before the ceremony, helping the bride get dressed, fix or touch-uphair & makeup if need be, deal with minor crises the bride doesn’t need to know about, etc. I think the point of having a personal attendant is to have someone there who can just focus on you, and keep you calm, since the bridesmaids and MOB have to deal with their own stuff.

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