Post # 1
Hello! I’m debating whether or not I should ask my cousin to be a personal attendant. I’ve always thought that was kind of a “shlup” job and never wanted to insult someone by asking them to “attend” to me. But, two things, I feel that I may actually need someone to help me with those little things and I have a cousin that I had to leave out of the wedding party. She’s from out of town and has already bought her plane ticket to be here for the wedding. Her brother is standing up for FH and I hate to leave her out of the wedding party fun. So…is it ok to ask her to be a PA? What are your feelings on the whole PA duties?
Post # 3
I personally think it’s kind of an insulting title…if you need help, why don’t you ask one of your bridemaids to do the little things? Also, check if your venue provides you with a bridal attendant.
Post # 4
Isn’t that what Bridesmaids are for?
Post # 5
I am having 2 attendants. They are both younger cousins (the same age) of a very tight knit family. I wanted to have them involved with the day, and this was just the perfect way. (I already have 1 junior Bridesmaid or Best Man and didn’t want 3)
How old is she? I think a lot might depend on that.. My two will be in 7th grade, so old enough to help, but young enough to still be excited about their role vs feeling it is ‘insulting’.
I think they will be a huge help since I am not having a DOC or anything like that.. and I know they will feel very excited to be a part of the big day! I’m sure your cousin will feel that way too.. just excited to be involved 🙂
Post # 6
Well, like I said, it’s just a way to include her. Otherwise I would not have a PA at all. I guess I could just invite her to be with the wedding party as a “special guest” or something because she is important to me. I was pretty sure that she wouldn’t be able to afford to be in the wedding nor was I sure she’d even make it here for it. She is kind of a “nomad”, lives in her vehicle for weeks at a time, lives in the woods (for her job) for 2 weeks at a time and I know money is tight for her (which she actually prefers). I’ll just include her somehow without actually give her a stupid job.
Post # 7
cubbie (go Brewers!), she’s 24 I think…and she’s very laid back. I doubt she would feel insulted at all. But I might just be too uncomfortable asking her to do that.
Post # 8
I am not having Personal Attendants, per say, but other than my Bridesmaids….I do have a House Party. They will help decorate and one of them is going to pretty much stick by my side the entire time. She’s a really good friend of mine, but just didn’t want to be a Bridesmaid anymore. She’s also been really helpful in finding some of the wedding details for me.
Post # 9
I really think it depends on how you approach her about it. Maybe if you tell her that you need someone that can trust completely to take care of all the things you can’t. And I wouldn’t call her a Personal Attendant…a Personal Assistant sounds better.