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You can read the whole story on my blog if you like, but the gist of it is that I was asked to be my friend’s personal attendent for her May wedding. She called the other day and told me her officiant backed out on her…what should she do? I told her I’d check around to see who might be available but if it came down to it I’d get ordained and do it myself.
She thought that was a great idea and begged me to peform her ceremony!! eek! 🙂 I agreed and I’ve been ordained. It was surprisingly easy and the county clerk was like "Yeah, no problem. You don’t need to show proof or anything in this county. Just sign their marriage license and make sure the couple and their witnesses sign too. Then send it in." Weird…
I’m excited but nervous. Is anyone else using an ordained friend or relative? We’re going to meet in a couple weeks to discuss her ideal ceremony. Any suggestions or ideas from all you creative girls??
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Laura that is so exciting!! If I were you I’d buy this book: The Wedding Ceremony Planner or ask the bride if she’d be willing to purchase it for you. It’s a really amazing resource! That is so exciting, have FUN with it!
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That’s great! My friend is officiating our wedding, so any resources that come up here would be great for her. I love the idea of someone doing the ceremony who knows us really well. I’m sure you can put a great personal spin on the ceremony.
I admit, we haven’t sat down and thought about what we’re going to do. This thread might be the kick in the butt we need!
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At my best friend’s wedding, her officiant was the groom’s best friend/former roommate. As far as I know he just gathered online resources and did a pretty traditional ceremony, but I know my friend couldn’t have been happier to have someone that meant a lot to them have such a huge part in the ceremony.
When it comes down to it, all you really need to do is talk it out thoroughly with the couple and decide on the type of ceremony they want. If you’re protraying their ideas/hopes for their ceremony, the specifics don’t matter so much.
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My FI’s friend may do ours! I’m really hoping she does because I know she’ll provide some much needed humor when he and I are about to ball our eyes out!
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I officiated at my best friend’s wedding, and liked it so much that I’m now a pro wedding officiant 🙂
Do LOTS of research. Libraries are a great resource, in case you don’t want to own a ton of books about writing a wedding. Ceremony structure is pretty important. Try to break up action stuff (rings, vows, any rituals) with the talking parts (readings, etc).
Communicate really well. Insist on a rehearsal and a microphone. Bring copies of the vows for them and any readings. Let them see the entire ceremony before hand and be prepared to edit. Personalize it and make it all about them!
Good luck and most importantly HAVE FUN!!