(Closed) Personal Attendant turned Officiant!

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1379 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Laura that is so exciting!! If I were you I’d buy this book: The Wedding Ceremony Planner or ask the bride if she’d be willing to purchase it for you.  It’s a really amazing resource!  That is so exciting, have FUN with it! 

Post # 5
141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

That’s great! My friend is officiating our wedding, so any resources that come up here would be great for her. I love the idea of someone doing the ceremony who knows us really well. I’m sure you can put a great personal spin on the ceremony.

I admit, we haven’t sat down and thought about what we’re going to do. This thread might be the kick in the butt we need! 

Post # 6
26 posts
  • Wedding: June 2009

At my best friend’s wedding, her officiant was the groom’s best friend/former roommate. As far as I know he just gathered online resources and did a pretty traditional ceremony, but I know my friend couldn’t have been happier to have someone that meant a lot to them have such a huge part in the ceremony.


When it comes down to it, all you really need to do is talk it out thoroughly with the couple and decide on the type of ceremony they want. If you’re protraying their ideas/hopes for their ceremony, the specifics don’t matter so much.

Post # 7
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

My FI’s friend may do ours! I’m really hoping she does because I know she’ll provide some much needed humor when he and I are about to ball our eyes out!

Post # 8
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I officiated at my best friend’s wedding, and liked it so much that I’m now a pro wedding officiant 🙂

Do LOTS of research.  Libraries are a great resource, in case you don’t want to own a ton of books about writing a wedding.  Ceremony structure is pretty important.  Try to break up action stuff (rings, vows, any rituals) with the talking parts (readings, etc).

Communicate really well.  Insist on a rehearsal and a microphone.  Bring copies of the vows for them and any readings.  Let them see the entire ceremony before hand and be prepared to edit.  Personalize it and make it all about them!

Good luck and most importantly HAVE FUN!!

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