(Closed) Personal dilemma

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: would you keep original ring or new one?


    New ring

    Other suggestions?

  • Post # 2
    102 posts
    Blushing bee

    I dont understand the not wanting a proposal while pregnant. If the old ring is gone then it’s not worth the drama to track it down and then return the new one. A ring is a ring and no matter what you pick out some will like it and others hate it but I could never tell my boyfriend to take back the ring he picked out, that sounds super selfish honestly because even if you dont like it, youd get used to it. No matter what you do, make up your mind before you mess with his mind more.

    Post # 3
    7802 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    So you currently have the new ring? At this point I’d just leave it. I really don’t think you’ll alieviate any hurt feelings by going back to the old ring, because he (and you) will always remember that you didn’t like it and wanted/did change it. So just keep this one and remember it’s just an item and isnt intrinsically tied to your relationship.

    Post # 4
    2322 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

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    feelinguilty :  I’d honestly be pretty annoyed if my SO picked out a ring without ever asking me what my preference was, so I don’t really fault you for being bothered that he got something that you don’t feel comfortable wearing on a daily basis and looks like costume jewelery.

    Can you do anything with the current ring, like change the setting, but use the same stone? Hard to make suggestions without knowing what you’re working with.

    ETA I didn’t realize you no longer had the original ring, woops

    Post # 5
    1639 posts
    Bumble bee

    If you pick out bands together  that might be a nice comprimise

    Post # 6
    165 posts
    Blushing bee

    This sounds like not just a ring problem but that you and your fiance are maybe not communicating very well about things? It might help to sit down and have an honest conversation with each other about your feelings and what you want your future to be. 

    Post # 7
    806 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I’d suggest picking a wedding band that you love (and that is a style that works for your athletic lifestyle), and keeping the original engagement ring.

    Post # 8
    722 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

    I wouldn’t try and get the old one back, He knows you didn’t like it and he would think you only got it back to please him and that your really not happy with it (which is true). He problary dosen’t want to help with another ring because the first one he picked out didn’t fit your lifestyle and he problary feels like he failed, so why bother. Like the other bee’s said maybe a nice wedding band would help.

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