(Closed) Personal Question…Hope you guys don’t mind!

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I found it rather painful the first few times.  Maybe take some ibuprofen before hand.  Stay relaxed though and take your time.  

Post # 4
724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It hurt a bit at first, and also he was getting used to how far to go in and sometimes it would hit me the wrong way and that would hurt. It was mostly uncomfortable because I wasn’t used to it, but we used lots of lube and it was OK. I definitely recommend lube!! Literally, put it all over him and you (inside you, that is).

But the next day I felt like I had cramps, and it was a little weird walking around! But that lasted maybe a day. I did not bleed, so that was good.

Post # 5
1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

It hurt on the way in, but once we were there, it was very pleasurable.


Post # 6
745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I didn’t find it hurt too much..he took his time, he had experience though while I didn’t.  The first time probably will happen quickly just take your time, make sure you involve some foreplay so that your body is ready and relax.

Post # 7
581 posts
Busy bee

It does hurt, but it’s only temporary.  Lubricant does help.  I ended up having a bladder infection afterward.  So if you are honeymooning far away fromn home, you may want to ask your doctor about it, so you are prepared.   But that was just me.  The key is take your time and enjoy.



Post # 8
1020 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

i didn’t enjoy for like, the first 5 times i had sex. it took time for me to like, let go and enjoy what was going on. i also got a uti after the first time or two.

Post # 9
2083 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I don’t know why, but I had absolutely zero pain our first time. I was very scared it was going to since everyone always says it is painful, but for whatever reason we had no issues. I was pleasantly surprised by the whole experience! lol

Post # 10
29 posts
  • Wedding: June 2010

take your time, relax and use lots of lube! it did hurt for me, as husband and i were both unexperience. it may depend on how well endowed he is as well (if you catch my drift). i felt bruised all weekend. lol

Post # 11
7771 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Just take your time and let it happen naturally.  It never hurt for me, but I would recommend a lot of foreplay- just saying- it might make it more comfortable than if he rushes right on in 😉

Post # 12
832 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

i didnt have any pain. i would say to just take things slow and enjoy it. & relax! 🙂

Post # 13
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

My first time was a long time ago, LOL, but I don’t remember it hurting. I do remember however it not being pleasurable either. It wasn’t awful or painful, don’t get me wrong, it just wasn’t anything. For me, it wasn’t like the movies (or how it is now) where it’s this incredible night of pleasure type thing. It was just….. whatever. It took a few times until it was “good” and felt nice for me too.

Post # 14
505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Mine was a while ago too, but it didn’t hurt. I had been a dancer for numerous years.  It was awkward because I had no clue on what I was doing and he did but didn’t take time to explain things to me (stupid boys! LOL)

If you feel it hurt, change positions or just shift a little until it doesn’t or feels like its not painful.  Don’t be nervous (easier said than done!).

Post # 15
2196 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

(warning major Too Much Information ahead) I am 100% that my hymen was already well broken and things down there fairly stretched out due to self-exploration, but it hurt about the first four or five times I had sex (but there was definitely no bleeding).  The first time, I had him very slowly ease in because a)I was still really tight and he had to work to get in, and b) it hurt A LOT.  He didn’t manage to get the whole way in the first time.  The second time we repeated the slowly working in process and it still hurt just as much, but he got the whole way in that time.  The third, fourth, and maybe fifth times, it definitely still hurt, but we actually managed to have sex and not just penetrate once and be done.  I was totally relaxed too, and very well-lubricated, we’d had lots of foreplay beforehand.  I didn’t actually ENJOY it until my next boyfriend, but that’s unrelated.  Once I got past the pain the first few times, had I actually really wanted to be having sex with the guy who took my virginity, I may have enjoyed it.  I certainly enjoy it now.

I’m actually surprised how much trouble I had the first few times.  Some people don’t have any trouble, hopefully you’ll be one of them, and then some people have pain for a while, like me!  Hopefully you’ll be in the first camp, good luck. 😉

Post # 16
1237 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I will second all the responses above about lubricant (even if you are using condoms that are lubricated). I always figured that it should be enough, but once we figured out that we just needed a little extra, it totally changed things!

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