Have never heard the term “Personal Shower”… sounds a lot like a “Lingerie Shower” to me… or what once upon a time was known as a “Bridal Trousseau Shower”.
A Bridal Trousseau Shower, was when the Bride received items that she could put away for her Honeymoon and early married life… they would compliment the items that she would have already begun to collect on her own… (be it clothing, personal goods, or some “nice” household linens… that part usually referred to as the “Hope Chest” or “Cedar Chest”)
This originally “french” tradition gained popularity during the Victorian age, when women would build a whole wardrobe to carry them thru the first year of their marriage… so that there was basically NEW everything for her Honeymoon and beyond. This concept more or less replaced a cash dowry… but meant that the Bride’s family had taken care of outfitting her for that first year, so it wasn’t a huge draw on the Groom (who was typically young and getting established in his career)… but also meant that the Bride’s Family had a chance to see that she “looked good” for her Groom (conveying her family’s social position) and also a time for the family women (Bride, MOB, Sisters, Gramma, Aunts etc) to show off their handiwork in the making or embellishment of various items (ie Dresses, Petticoats, Lingerie, Coats, Quilts, Tea Towels, Doileys, Embroidered items etc)
When I was married the first time (circa 1980) there were still certainly women who maintained this tradition. I myself had a Cedar Chest (Lane was a huge manufacturer of them in the USA)… and I filled it up with items during my Engagement… including gifts I received (Engagement Parties, Showers etc) as well as items I bought on my own (Towels, Bed Linens etc). And there were items that were given to me as gifts that were handcrafted… such as pieces that were knit, crocheted, embroidered etc.
In addition there was my Wedding Day attire… Dress, Veil, Petticoat, Bra, Pantyhose, Shoes, Purse, Jewellery etc.
And my “Going Away Outfit”… Suit, Blouse, Stockings, Purse & Shoes, Hat & Coat (all of which made their way into my working life / career wear post Honeymoon)
As well, I did follow the Trousseau tradition of building my wardrobe… albeit was mostly for the Honeymoon… a couple of suitcases full as I recall. Lingerie, Nighties, Bathrobe, Slippers, Jeans, Casual Pants, Dress Pants, Skirts, Tops, Blouses, Sweaters, Runners, Shoes, Dress Shoes, Dress, Slip, Pantyhose, Bathingsuit, Cover-Up, Jacket, Umbrella, etc
EVERYTHING that I took on my Honeymoon was Brand New !! (a great way to spoil oneself for sure)
I “hope” that I can replicate the Honeymoon Trousseau tradition this time round… because I really enjoyed it the first time. I hope to do a lot of shopping over the rest of the summer (and particularly during the sales) because we are Honeymooning in the US South & Caribbean after our December Wedding.
Mr TTR seems to ALWAYS notice when I have something new on… he does appreciate it when I look good… seems to me that a lot of guys like that… (they somehow think we do it for them… when us gals know we do it for ourselves). So he should be thrilled to see me looking mar-vell-ous on our honeymoon… and I know that it will make me feel great too (and hearing the feedback from him, will only make it that much sweeter too). A real win-win