Personal vows in private after wedding

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2021 - City, State

We’re considering this, or doing it beforehand, depending on if we decide to do a first look or not.  I think it’s a lovely idea.  I’m fairly extroverted, but my fiance is quite shy, so we definitely will exchange private vows aside from our public ones as well ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 3
787 posts
Busy bee

LOVE this idea. We didnt do it because I never thought of this. Hubby and I both are very sappy with eachother but we are also private and didnt want that in our vows (I figured I would cry too and I didnt want to!).

This is such a special and romantic idea. Go for it! I may do this for our first anniversary ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We wrote each other letters that we read privately to each other.  We wrote them down because the idea is that whenever we are having a rough patch, we are supposed to read those letters and remembered how we felt on the day we committed our lives to each other. I didn’t want to read them for our vows because they are private, but also because I didn’t want that added stress. I was already a bundle of nerves;The most I could do was repeat after someone. Lbvs. Either way, I think what you guys are planning is a lovely idea. 

Post # 5
1193 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We didn’t do this ourselves but it sounds so lovely and special! Another option to think about- if you’re planning a first look before the ceremony, you could exchange your personal vows then too! That way you’d already have the photography and dress settled. (Although doing it on your honeymoon is a great option as well!)

Post # 7
53 posts
Worker bee

Hi, my husband and I exchanged traditional vows at our wedding but wanted to share our personal vows with only each other and God to witness. On the first night of our honeymoon, we went to dinner then walked around the city and found a quiet spot near the waterfront where we stayed a while and exchanged our vows. It is a memory I cherish. 

Post # 9
23 posts
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

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Aprilmae419 :  

We’re actually getting married in 10 days at city hall and doing a ceremony at night and since we live together, I wanted to be close to the venue so I booked a hotel near it so I won’t see him the night before.

So we decided we would write vows to each other to read privately the morning of our wedding, right before we see each other for the first time at the court house.

I just finished them yesterday ๐Ÿ™‚


I think you have a great idea, reading them after in private makes it more special and intimate.

Post # 10
124 posts
Blushing bee

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Aprilmae419 :  we read them during the first look photo shoot.  We had great pictures, honest smiles (and tears lol). The photographer was far from us and could not hear the vows. We are both very private. 

Post # 11
6368 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

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Aprilmae419 :  So…sort of…?

Funny story. My husband and I were supposed to say personal vows to each other during our ceremony but our officiant totally forgot about it! She just read the vows she had written for us. And it actually worked out for the best at the time because I was an anxious wreck and I don’t think I could’ve said all that I had written in front of an audience anyway. So my husband and I ended up reading them to each other alone, just the two of us, while sitting on the couch together after our wedding all snuggled up. It was actually perfect. Very intimate. I’m glad no one else was there to hear them. It was a very special moment. 

Post # 13
349 posts
Helper bee

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Aprilmae419 :  We’re doing ours at the first look so the photographer can capture the moment ๐Ÿ™‚

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