Post # 1
So I am uber close with my mom. like talk several times a day close. Today when I was taking a break from haranging my SO, I decided to harass my mom.
She said to be patient and that I only had a month or less to wait. To which I began to audibly pout. She then said she told him that impatience has always been a part of my personality and that it was a feature not a flaw. She also said being dramatic is another feature of my personality.
I must admit I was shocked! She wasn’t lying but I’d never heard anyone say that before.
So question: Do you have any personality features that some people accept as normal that others might view as a flaw?
Post # 3
I am pretty laid-back on decision making. I pretty much live by “whatever happens…happens”. People tend to hate that and mistake it for being indecisive. I just really don’t care and don’t stress about things.
Post # 4
I used to be VERY shy. I have since tried to improve that because it did end up being more of a “flaw” than a feature. It really inhibited me from talking to people which I really need to fix because now I’m self-employed.
I’m still very quiet and introverted. Some people see being quiet as a flaw, but many more see it as a very good quality, actually. Being quiet hasn’t hurt me.
I think it becomes more of a flaw when it interferes with your life. But if its just part of who you are and doesn’t affect you negatively (or maybe even does positive things for you) then its just a feature. 😉 Even IF some people might not find it desireable.
Post # 5
I’m “always right” lol I don’t know why I’m like this & I don’t try to be but I sometimes think I know better & try to get my SO to do it my way because my way is the best way. I get it from my mom actually (and it drove me CRAZY growing up that she was like this!) I’m not bitchy or pushy or annoying about it though, my SO says I just say things like “why wouldn’t my way be right?” like, not judging or condescending or anything but very matter-of-fact. She laughs at me for it & thinks it’s amusing but I didn’t realize how often the “my way” thought goes through my head until she pointed it out!
Post # 6
I’m short fused! I loose my temper and then my mouth fires off like a machine gun.
Post # 7
@Cady: Same problem. That and I’ve heard my problem is that I’m “too nice”. Should I be a psycho bitch then? Is that going to fix my problem?
Post # 8
I’m very impatient (at least with those close to me and with those who are really irritating) and have a terrible temper, and can get super anxious and nervous and clingy/un-confident. The impatience and terrible temper I know I will probably never bother to work on, but the anxiety and lack of confidence at times I try to work on.
Oh well.. .
Post # 9
I procrastinate. Usually only with important, or big things. It’s annoying!
Post # 10
@Creiddylad: Well I’ll tell you what my mom tells me. “Youre perfect! now act differently!” hahaha she kids, she kids!
Post # 11
I can definitely be too shy and an introvert. I like who I am just fine, but it is nonetheless something I work on. Being less of a people person is great and definitely a “personality feature” when it doesn’t inhibit. At this point in my life, my shyness can still hold me back from great things, so I work to improve it.
Overall I’m pretty damn awesome though.
Post # 12
yeah, I procrastinate pretty badly, most of the time… it doesn’t really bother me though. I manage to get things done regardless, somehow. Also I can be really lazy and sleep in pretty late if I don’t have to get up. It drives my husband crazy! But I often pull all-nighters too, so, meh.
Post # 13
I often misunderstand people… its weird, I always think I understand what’s happening and what people mean to say, but then I’ll end up in this huge fight or upsetting someone or getting upset myself because I’m somehow totally wrong about what they meant to say. I miss a lot of subtle social cues.
Actually this makes living in a foreign country NICER to me, because I’m EXPECTED to be a bit weird compared to the native culture and my awkwardness doesn’t really translate! 🙂
Post # 14
Count me in the introvert club! You should check out this book . I read it a few months ago, made me feel validated:-) Lots of interesting research and information, written by a self-proclaimed introvert. http://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352145
Another weird quirk of mine is that during the day, I have no attention span and struggle to focus on tasks. But at night, and especially when I’m caffeinated, I get hyper-focused to the point of obsession. Once I start on something like cleaning, packing, researching wedding stuff online, I can go all night without even realizing it. It’s been getting really out of hand lately, I need less interwebs and more sleep!
Post # 15
I can be extremely shy. It’s not as bad as it used to be, but when I meet new people I clam up and will not talk until I am comfortable being around that person.
Post # 16
I think most strong features can be viewed both as good and bad. For instance, I’m determined, but when I take it too far I’m stubborn. It’s good when I’m doing something productive, but it’s bad when I’m trying to do something I am horrible at and just end up bashing my head into the wall over and over while trying to get through it. I’m confident, but that can mutate into arrogance. And so on. Some of the kindest people I know are frequently doormats, when they would probably be better served standing up for themselves a bit more. I think most good traits have a flipside, and vice versa.