(Closed) Personalize Thank You Notes?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

You can still send a postcard to save on postage while leaving yourselves room to personalize a message to your guests. I think you’ll find that most people see a personalized message as a necessity.

As an example, something like this lets you use a wedding photo on front and leaves room for writing a message and addressing on back:


Post # 4
4465 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You should DEFINITELY personalize.  My cousin did the pre-printed postcards and my judgey family has NOT STOPPED talking about how rude it was. 

Post # 5
790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I don’t feel there is really any point in sending a thank you card if it’s not personalized at all. The point of thank you notes/cards is that they take some time and effort…that’s how you show your gratitude. 

Post # 6
909 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Yeah, I would think it’s rude to not include a personal message thanking them for the exact gift. I hadn’t even heard of this pre-printed trend before weddingbee, it thankfully hasn’t appeared in my real life yet.

Post # 7
3770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

I definitely think personalized thank you’s are a good idea, if not a necessity.  Have you already purchased your post cards?  Even if you already have, you should handwrite in a sentence or two directed towards those specific guests and whatever specific gift they provided (or just a ‘thanks for coming’ if they didn’t give you a gift).

Post # 8
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree. It’s like getting that spam phone call where they just put your name in with a different voice. Take the time to write them out and personalize them.

Post # 9
1285 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We did personalized cards. Put yourself in the gift givers shoes, if you spend a decent amount of money and energy getting the gift and got what amounts to a rubber stamp thank you card, would you really feel appreciated?

Post # 11
3265 posts
Sugar bee

If you don’t write a personal note, it’s basically junk mail.  A large batch, commercial mailing.

Also guests took much time to get you a gift, and attend your function.  The least thing you can do it write to thank them. 

Post # 13
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

This is a very bad idea. You can go and buy very inexpensive thank you notes at Michael’s, Hobby Lobby, Walmart, etc. Then you need to write a personal message to every single guest that gave you a gift.

First thank them for the gift – mention specifically what it is. Next, tell them how you’ll use it. In a new paragraph tell the gift giver how nice it was to see them at the wedding (or that they were missed, if applicable). End the note with another sentence of thanks. Sign it love, warmly, etc. and then your name.

Example –

Dear Aunt Susie,

Thank you so much for the beautiful crystal vase. I cannot wait to use it as a centerpiece at Thanksgiving dinner. We’ll treasure it for years to come.

It was lovely to see you at the wedding – I can’t wait to catch up at Christmas! Thank you again.



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