Personalized vows or traditional?

posted 2 months ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

What does he want to do??

We repeated after the officiant. We wanted the traditional vows anyway, but we did debate memorising them. I’m glad we decided not to – in the emotion of the moment it was all I could do to hold it together! I’d definitely have forgotten what to say! 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Scotts ~ Walnut Creek

We went with the option that would require the least amount of verbal speech possible. For legal purposes all we had to do was agree to be married and have the officiant pronounce us man and wife.

But we provided input and approved what he would say on our behalf. It was a short three minute speech about love, trust, blessing our marriage and some other stuff I honestly don’t remember. lol It was lovely at the time we’re just not into sentimental displays or public speaking.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

It’s a little different in the UK because if you marry in church you have to say specific vows. There are three options but went witj one because it’s more commonly used these days and we wanted it to be familiar for our guests.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

We wrote our own vows. We each wrote them down on index cards and gave them to the officiant – he handed them to us during the ceremony so we could read them. Both Darling Husband and I like to write, so it was very “us” and meaningful. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

We went with traditional. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

We wrote our own vows and ceremony. The officiant used our vows in the repeat after me part.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

almk87 :  We wrote our own vows and read them off cards. We both had moments when we made eachother laugh and cry in our vows. They were perfect. We still have them and occassionally read them to eachother. 

Side note, we did the repeat after me thing for the rings, and both my husband and I flubbed that up! We both did so well on our vows then forgot to listen for the repeat after me portion. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Personalized. I wanted our vows to represent us and I’m so glad. Everyone loved it and it was beautiful. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

We’re doing traditional “I do”‘s. I figure, there are enough decisions to make and things to worry about. Neither of us really enjoy writing, so why add the stress.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: London, UK

We will do the normal civil ceremony vows. We don’t like PDAs and to me standing there gushing to eachother in front of a massive group of people is the ultimate public display of affection. Also, not saying they don’t exist, but I’ve personally never heard/read personalised vows that don’t make me cringe. 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Oh man. I wrote mine and thought I could get through them but the overwhelming emotion of getting married coupled with the personal meaning behind my vows was too much. I cried…. a lot Hahahaha. But it honestly wasn’t so bad. It may be easier to repeat after someone and then later say your written vows to one another in private. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

almk87 :  I am doing a mix of both! We will be reading written vows to eachother, but for the exchanging of the rings and some other parts of the ceremony we are using the traditional vows “Do you take this women… etc etc”

It’s actually kind of nice to really personalize the ceremony to match us as a couple!

Post # 14
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Busy bee

We couldn’t be bothered to write our own vows in top of everything else plus I’ve always been partial to the traditional…It was easy and classic and required no effort so we loved them!

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