Post # 16
We had a Church of England ceremony so had the traditional vows. I really didn’t want any personalised vows (tbf it’s also not so easy to do in the UK) as we’re very private and I didn’t want to get too personal in front of all our guests.
Post # 17
We did an in-between. We decided we just want to say I do, to minimize the crying while talking, but we did not want to do the typical, religious vows. We chose vows that we felt represented us and then we asked the officiant to phrase those into a question where we could answer I do.
Post # 18
We’ll be doing shorter versions of traditional vows (none of that ‘submit’ crap) and will definitely be memorizing and practicing so that it’s not awkwardly repeating 1-2 words at a time.
Post # 19
Personalized, so much more special!
Post # 20
We’re doing personalized, but keeping them shorter because I know I’ll be too much of a hot mess to hold it together long.
Post # 21
We did both, and I’ve seen many people do that. We first did the traditional vows and then read our own. It was perfect. It was the most emotional moment of the day for sure, and it was perfect. My Darling Husband has done so much for me, and I really wanted to stand up in front of everyone who knows me and talk about how incredible he is. We both loved it, and everyone else did too. We got married months ago and every time we see family they gush about how beautiful our vows were.
Post # 22
almk87 : We did traditional and just said “I do” or “I will” or answered yes or no to questions the Deacon asked. The only thing my Darling Husband wanted to have to repeat was the exchanging of rings. He didn’t want to have to say a whole lot because he was worried about stumbling over his words or forgetting/messing it up. If you wanted to do something personal, you could always write letters to each other and exchange them before the ceremony, or after the rehearsal dinner the night before!
Post # 23
personal, always personal.
we wrote our own. and my husband and my favorite parts of weddings are hearing personal vows.
if you write them, keep them around 90 seconds. much longer and the guests will start to get bored and annoyed.