Personalized vows or traditional?

posted 10 months ago in Ceremony
Post # 16
2805 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We had a Church of England ceremony so had the traditional vows. I really didn’t want any personalised vows (tbf it’s also not so easy to do in the UK) as we’re very private and I didn’t want to get too personal in front of all our guests. 

Post # 17
1038 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

We did an in-between. We decided we just want to say I do, to minimize the crying while talking, but we did not want to do the typical, religious vows. We chose vows that we felt represented us and then we asked the officiant to phrase those into a question where we could answer I do.

Post # 18
383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2021 - British Columbia, Canada

We’ll be doing shorter versions of traditional vows (none of that ‘submit’ crap) and will definitely be memorizing and practicing so that it’s not awkwardly repeating 1-2 words at a time.

Post # 19
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Personalized, so much more special!

Post # 20
1224 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

We’re doing personalized, but keeping them shorter because I know I’ll be too much of a hot mess to hold it together long.

Post # 21
179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

We did both, and I’ve seen many people do that. We first did the traditional vows and then read our own. It was perfect. It was the most emotional moment of the day for sure, and it was perfect. My Darling Husband has done so much for me, and I really wanted to stand up in front of everyone who knows me and talk about how incredible he is. We both loved it, and everyone else did too. We got married months ago and every time we see family they gush about how beautiful our vows were. 

Post # 22
692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018


almk87 :  We did traditional and just said “I do” or “I will” or answered yes or no to questions the Deacon asked. The only thing my Darling Husband wanted to have to repeat was the exchanging of rings. He didn’t want to have to say a whole lot because he was worried about stumbling over his words or forgetting/messing it up. If you wanted to do something personal, you could always write letters to each other and exchange them before the ceremony, or after the rehearsal dinner the night before! 

Post # 23
9174 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

personal, always personal. 

we wrote our own.  and my husband and my favorite parts of weddings are hearing personal vows.

if you write them, keep them around 90 seconds.  much longer and the guests will start to get bored and annoyed.

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