- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2015
So I probably won’t be getting engaged this month like I originally thought. I’m ok with this now, but I thought I’d write a post about it in the hopes that it’ll help other waiting bees who may be going through something similar.
Back around Thanksgiving (way back in 2012) my boyfriend and I got very emotional while talking about some stuff and we wound up making a five year plan. He told me that he would be proposing in January of 2013 because it was after the holidays and before the busy season starts for him. To say I was excited that he said that without any needling or asking on my part would be an understatement.
Jump forward to yesterday, the last day of 2012. He had said one or two things the day before that made me a bit nervous about whether he was actually going to propose next month or not. So, when he picked me up to go to get food, I asked him to let me know if his plans wind up changing. Not only did he not understand what I was asking him (he thought it was about food), but he also didn’t remember that he had told me he would be proposing in January. He completely forgot!
So I, of course, was pretty upset and (eventually) pissed off for the rest of the morning. The poor guy did his best to try and get me to talk about it, but I didn’t want to cry because that wouldn’t have been fair to him. And then he got me to talk and I did cry and then he cried a little bit and I was trying to make him feel better. Long story short, I told him that I won’t move in with him unless we’re engaged (just to make me feel better about the situation). That gives him at least 6 months to do everything he wants to do (like get an engagement ring when I told him I don’t want one, but it’s important to him so I’ll just deal with it). He agreed.
So, our original timeline is pretty much out. We had wanted to look into getting married in 2014 originally, but because he was lazy and forgetful (both of which are his words, not mine) and wants to be engaged for around 2 years, that will probably get pushed back to 2015.
That story really isn’t the point of this post though. The actual point is the fact that, while I was extremely embarassed (and angry and upset and weepy) when we were talking I am actually laughing about the entire thing now. Looking back on it almost reminds me of a really bad lifetime movie and I’m a naturally goofy person, so I really can’t remember this discussion without wanting to laugh really hard.
So, my fellow waiting bees, I want you to remember that perspective helps and is important to keep in mind. When you’re in the heat of the moment it can be tough to think ahead, but if you can laugh about it later that is always a good thing.