Post # 1
My Fiance and I have been engaged for 2 years. We postponed our wedding so long because we live 12 hours away from home and we we’re attending a wedding a month last year including my Maid/Matron of Honor. We are now 6 months from the wedding and my BFF/ Maid/Matron of Honor has announced that she is pregnant and will be due 1 month after the wedding. I am very happy for her but also (selfishly) really disappointed. I know how awful it is that I even feel this way. I was looking forward to celebrating my bachelorette party and wedding with my best friend. I am thinking of canceling the bachelorette party all together as 2 of the 4 Bridesmaid or Best Man are pregnant and another is TTC. I chose to have it back home so everyone could afford to come but there are not a lot of entertainment options besides bars so it will be awful for them. There are no salons or movie theaters (honestly). I really am excited for them but this is not what I envisioned. There are a lot of things about this wedding that are that way maybe this is the last straw. Trust me I know how selfish this is so if you don’t have anything nice or helpful to post please don’t.
Post # 3
I don’t think you are selfish at all. If I was you I’d plan something like getting a hotel room in the nearest city, spending the day at a spa, going out to a really nice dinner, and then to the theater. Everyone can have a great time even without drinking. But that’s like my perfect evening.
If you really want to go out and party I’m sure you can, hopefully you have friends (who aren’t BMs) that can still drink – look at it this way, the pregnant gals can be your designated drivers 🙂
Post # 4
I had a dear friend who, when she was pregnant, would insist on girls’ nights out where we would hit the bars and dance all night (she would, of course, be drinking Shirley Temples) damn near right up til she gave birth. She would be there rocking out on the dance floor with her huge belly, saying “my son loves the bass! I can feel him dancing in there!” While this isn’t everyone, the point is — PREGNANT DOES NOT EQUAL BORING!!! So don’t go canceling your bachelorette party just because your friends will be knocked up. They will probably still have a blast, and the fact that they’re pregnant just means you have an automatic designated driver!
I know it’s hard to picture how your wedding will go with all these pregnant bridesmaids, but trust me, it isn’t worth worrying about. These are your best friends, and they will still be your best friends even when their belly buttons turn inside out. My sister was my pregnant bridesmaid, and even though that meant she couldn’t help with the down-and-dirty stuff like bustling the dress (because she can’t really squat), she was still a lifesaver for us — not least because she was the only sober one. So don’t let yourself feel badly about this!!! Just remember that someday when the kiddos are little you can show them your wedding pictures and point at their mom’s belly and say “there’s you! You were at my wedding!”
Post # 5
@Lotsofchocolateplease: I understand completely. A Bridesmaid or Best Man of mine was thinking about getting pregnant this year. I was excited for her when she told me but a few hrs later I was like “OMG wait! How is she going to fit into her dress?” I was worried because at this time the wedding was set for April 2013. We ended up changing the date anyways and she decided they were going to get pregnant next year. Things will work out. Is your bachelorette party really a priority or is seeing your girls by your side on your wedding day more important? You can still have a great time with your girls while they’re preggo. AFTER the baby is when they would be much less available. I would look for some figure flattering Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses also. Maybe the chiffon material would be okay with an empire waist? I was prepared to go this route when I thought my Bridesmaid or Best Man was going to get preggo.
Post # 7
Thanks bees! I couldn’t sleep last night but I am starting to feel better….
@reebee. THANK YOU! You first sentence brought me to tears! I was feeling really guilty about my reaction. It helps to know that at least one person doesn’t think I am a bridezilla!
@iarebridzilla you are right pregnant is not equal to boring. I have to remember it is all about attitude and my BFF has a great attitude it’s way we are friends in the first place!
@Lindseyl06 unfortunalty dresses have been ordered and delivered the good news is the most preggo of the Bridesmaid or Best Man has already gotten the ball rolling on making sure it fits ok.
Post # 8
U poor thing – I know what it’s like when you feel selfish for thinking of your wedding first! I don’t think you’re being selfish at all and I get the problem of having a sml town thing, but I agree w the other girls and think you could def organize something yourself that the preg gals will really like: what about organizing stuff at home with different themes? Hawaiian, whimsical Alice-in-Wonderland, TV themes, the list is endless and it’s stuff they can be involved in. You could make different punches and have one w/out alcohol for the to-be-mommies, plus there are some other girls that aren’t pregnant right? And your Maid/Matron of Honor can look after you if you’ve had too many cocktails ;0)
Also with the dresses, are they at least empire lined? That way it wld be comfortable for the girls and you could just get them cute ballet flats or bridal flip flops and they’d be comfortable! I’m sure everything will b ok!! 🙂