(Closed) Pet Conundrum (sort of long)…

posted 7 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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1104 posts
Bumble bee

I would just say he has 2 weeks to prove he is going to help me take care of the cats (by doing X, Y and Z) or they are going back to their original owner. Surely he is more attached to you than he is to them 🙂

Maybe there is something you can do to stop them driving you so crazy, but I don’t know anything about cats (in fact I hate them and I’m not surprised they’re driving you crazy :)) I’m sure someone else will be able to give you some ideas though!

Post # 5
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5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would bite the bullet and get the male fixed. That can be such a huge factor in their behavior! And, as said, I’d lay down the law with your FI – if he’s not going to commit to helping clean up their messes, you can’t deal with it by yourself. It’s not fair to you or the cats! 

Post # 6
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2867 posts
Sugar bee

Fix the male, it’ll definitely help.

EDIT:  There are low cost spay and neuter programs out there, just contact the local humane society and they’ll point you to one.

Post # 7
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5823 posts
Bee Keeper

I would advise against the low cost neutering.  Someone else posted on here about how her dog DIED getting neutered at a low cost facility and she would have preferred to pay the extra cash to make sure her dog was ok.  That just gives me chills.

I think that it’s important to neuter your cat.  It won’t guarantee that he won’t keep spraying though now that he’s learned it.  I like the suggestion to give your FI a due date for when you will give the cats back.  If he can’t make the effort in [whatever time table] you give him, then he’s more into the idea of the cats than taking care of them.  And if you give him a due date, then you aren’t giving them back without telling him, and he’ll know where they went, so it won’t be unexpected.

Post # 8
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3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think you need to explain to your FI that you guys will have a lot on your plate when you move, and its best to give the cats back to the original owner. 

Maybe you can convince him to let the owner have them for a month or so just while you guys get the move taken care of?

Post # 10
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948 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay

I like a combination of the previous posters advice – first, get the male fixed NOW.  Not only will it save your furniture and carpet, but the last thing you want to do is contribute to the pet population if he is running around outside.  Second, tell your FI that he has a set number of days (7, 10 – whatever) to prove that he will be the primary caregiver for the cats that he so desperately wants to keep.  If he doesn’t step up to the plate and care for them, then I think it’s best for your sanity to give them back.

Good luck!!!  & it was so good of you to take them in the first place! 🙂

Post # 11
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Give kitty the choppity chop!

Post # 13
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561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wow. That’s great! I was going to say that – they belong to the original owner.

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