Post # 16
Oh gosh, this is so so hard- I’m so sorry for your loss! I adopted my girl my first year of law school- my first time living alone- and she got me through it ALL- school, finals, the bar exam. My sweet partner for so many years. Right when I started dating my now fiance she fell very ill, and I eventually discovered she had terminal cancer after many vet trips and tests. My fiance was with me when I put her down, and truly, that was the night I knew I would marry him. We brought our new pup home the morning after we got engaged (pup was planned months in advance), but I don’t think I would have been ready before that point.
After dealing with a terminally ill dog, who I pulled out ALL the stops (and money) for I was exhausted. I missed her to pieces, but she had been so so sick and I had been so so scared, that I needed a breather. We volunteered with a rescue organization for several months, started to research breeders (she had been a rescue with too many health problems to count), and very much eased back in.
With littles ones, I might wait until they were big enough to respect the puppy. Try to appreciate the break from planning your schedule around potty trips for the dog, having to find a pet-sitter etc. Perhaps considering fostering a dog to see how you and your kiddos respond?
Post # 17
I think you just know when you’re ready, don’t force it. Before my dog of 18 years passed away I kept saying that I wouldn’t get another one for awhile. I honestly expected to not get another dog for years. He passed away in May of 2010, and by October of the same year I had a new dog. I just couldn’t live without one any longer. I was surprised at how quickly I wanted a new one. A few months ago I came across old pictures of him and cried. I still get sad thinking about him, but I’m also so grateful for the dog I got after him. I’m sorry you loss your pup, and even though you may still get sad thinking about her it’ll get easier with time.
Btw, I totally understand that looking for them even though they aren’t there thing. About a month ago we implemented a no dog on the bed rule, and I still think I see my dog on there from time to time. It’s usually just the blankets bunched up, but it tricks me every time.
Post # 18
I am sorry for your loss, I know this feeling keenly.
In October 2016, our family Beagle of 16 years passed away. My Mother of course was very depressed and by Christmas cried daily. She adopted a 9 month old Beagle in February and it has immensely helped her mourn for Mickey. The adopted Beagle is by no means a ‘replacement’ but just as loved, my Mom is now much happier knowing she has Lillian to come home to.
I suposse this is one of times that depend on the temperment and circumstances of the person/family left behind. …And by all means take the time to mourn and/or live without a pet, when (if) you are ready consider adoption.
Post # 19
MrsCoest3 : I understand how you feel. We had to say goodbye to my beloved 13-year old German Shepherd two weeks ago, and right now I can’t even imagine getting another dog. I LOVE dogs, but the idea I could just go out and get another one to replace her just seems so…wrong. Take your time – as much as you need – to grieve, bee. Dogs aren’t just pets, they’re family members, and you lost a family member. Getting a new one isn’t going to fix that. Focus on your kids, and when you’re ready for another dog, you’ll know.
Post # 20
bb1721 : Oh!! So cute!! I hope she’s happy now. 🙂
Post # 21
when my husband’s dog was near the end of her life. he rescued another so the first would have a companion towards the end of her life and make the transition easier. now that dog is getting up there. we have a 1 year old and pregnant with #2. if this dog passes, we will probably wait a few years until we move to a new house with a fenced in yard before getting another dog.
sorry for your loss.
Post # 22
Thanks everyone. It’s been a while since I’ve gotten on here but the process is getting easier.
I still think about her a lot and when I think about getting another dog, I don’t want just any dog, I want her back.
I talked to my husband about getting a dog and we can’t agree on the size of the dog. He wants a big dog and I want a small dog, so for now we’re just settling for not having a dog at all till we can agree on something lol