Post # 1
So my bridal shower was today. It was fab, more then i thought people really would put into it. Though some did not show which i knew was going to happen however i got a ton of stuff and i saw people i haven’t seen in forever!!
1 thing that drives me up the wall and more is when…
Not only today but at other partys ive noticed whenever someone opens presents and kids are around theres always that one kid who opens it for you. I could tell everyone was getting annoyed.My flower girl who ive only seen 2 or 3 times since shes been born… shes is 2 and turns 3 on my wedding day…
1. she was standing right in front of me and the gift so noone could see.
2. she was trying to lift heavy boxes
3. she was ripping the bows off when we were trying to save them
I know she didn’t mean anything but i kinda blame her guardians on that.
It bugs me cuz my aunt didnt care. She let it happen. I am too nice/ shy of a person to be like hey get your kid and tell them to relax. I dunno I just know when i was little at a party you just sat and watched. I never did that.
Im just shocked how kids are now a days. (Previous partys ive been to ive seen it happen many times.)
Anyone else hate that?
Post # 4
Annoying huh. I remember being 3-4 years old and just about bursting with happiness when I watched someone else open a gift, but I knew, like all my friends knew, that it was theirs and not mine to open. Such a simple thing to learn. Careful she doesn’t stick her finger in the cake on the wedding day!
Post # 5
Not to ruffle feathers, but she’s just a little kid who is having fun and overwhelmed at all the presents! Whenever my cousins and I were little, we would always help each other open presents. I honestly don’t see what the big deal is, and I actually think its pretty common for adults to let kids help open presents since the actual act of opening the presents is a much bigger deal to a 3 year old than it is to an adult. In my opinion, if you had a problem with it, you should have said something to your aunt. If i was the kid’s mother, I never would have assumed it would bother someone to let the kid help open presents. I think you need to relax about it just a little and remember that this is a 2 year old who does not know any better.
Post # 6
It doesn’t bother me as long as the child is well behaved and it’s obvious the parent is keeping an eye on them. A 2 year old is just excited and overwhelmed by everything that’s going on, and really wants to be involved (and you asked her to be your flower girl, so you must want her to be involved too). The way you describe it wouldn’t bother me…she wasn’t breaking things or making it difficult for you by being obnoxious…but then I wasn’t there! Most people would find it pretty cute I’d imagine, but maybe there’s some details I’m missing.
Post # 7
I’m not sure if that would bother me- but I can see how it is annoying. I hate when adults don’t control their children in general. See, I would never let my kid impose on someone elses moment regardless of how cute I thought it was.
At a graduation party a few years ago my parents held for my brother a cousin kept allowing her sons to bother the bar tender ordering frozen drinks. They would order one, take a sip, leave it (or dump it out) and order another one. This went on until we were out of mix. I mean.. why? And then when one of the kids crapped his pants she handed his short to my mom to wash while she was hosting this event.
Post # 8
I was not blaming the child. I was blaming my Aunt for letting her get carried away. She is 2 months from 3 years. Very smart. But even if anyone would say dont pick it up it can break or whatever she wouldn’t listen and just keep doing it.Some things i didn’t even get to open lol. My aunt is her guardian. Eaither way i understand her excitment and thats fine. I just think it could have been handled better.Also i may see it different since i was rasied to know not too. But i see most people can see my point of view.
Post # 9
yeah I don’t like that either! Maybe you could have asked your bm’s to distract her or play with her for a bit?
Post # 10
My pet peeve happened at my friend’s Bridal Shower…..
My job was to create the “bow bouquet”, another Bridesmaid or Best Man was taking pictures, another one was writing down the gifts, and another was putting the gifts off to the side and organizing them for later.
The bride’s aunt sat up at the front w/ the Maid/Matron of Honor and the bride. The aunt started OPENING the gifts as she was grabbing them, then the Maid/Matron of Honor was finishing up w/ the wrapping job and by the time the Bride got the gift…..it was 95% OPEN!!! WTF?!?! Whats the point?!?
When my Bridal Shower rolled around I told my girls to only hand me the gifts and I would open them….sure it took a little longer but its my gift and I wanted the excitment of seeing the gift first!!
Post # 11
My 3 year old cousin helped us open every single gift at our opening. Thing is, when she helps you, she screams if you try to touch the gift yourself, so with limited three year old dexterity it took a long time to watch her open all our gifts.
Post # 12
UGH, so annoying. I wouldn’t be caught dead allowing my children to randomly rip open other people’s gifts. To me, that breeds much deeper habits and issues.
On a similar note, I was at a wedding last week and one of the guests allowed her 3 year old son (who was uninvited in the first place) wander up to the altar and tug on the groom’s pants and scream during the ceremony. His parents just giggled. When the bride & groom signed the registry he finally took off back to his parents.
Post # 13
I HATE that! Honestly if you bring children make sure they behave! They are not the ones getting the gifts so they should not be opening them.
My shower I actully had very helpful little kids one would bring me the gifts and the other one took the opened gift from me! It was great 🙂
Post # 14
That might annoy me too. I haven’t had it happen but I can see why it would bother you. Afterall, its your event. So as cute as I’m sure she was, that’s not why people were there. I have a high tolerance for all things relating to kids so I would of probably just shrugged it off and thought about it later. My nephew was the ring bearer and he’s cute… but he’s always ALWAYS getting in the way of photos. He’s only 1.5 so its not his fault. But all of my shower photos show him wandering around because his father came in to get food and left him unsupervised while he did so (nice). And all throughout our ceremony he was wandering around the altar, which was captured on video and in photos. He was also on the dance floor during our first dance. I’ve never said a thing to even my husband about it but what the crap?
Post # 15
Oh yikes that would have driven me CRAZY. I’m not a kid person and my family knows it so hopefully no one would let that occur around me! lol. Kids are not invited to my bridal shower (thank God), but at my FSIL’s shower a few months ago that my mom threw, she set up a table specifically for kids and got them a bunch of games and crowns to decorate etc to keep them out of everyone’s hair.
Post # 16
yes! annoying! can’t believe the guardian didn’t stop her…sure it’s cure when they get excited about presents, but then you explain to them that this is your party, not theirs, and that they can’t open the gifts! sheesh!