Post # 17
I love my nieces and nephews to death and they all walked down the aisle on my wedding day, but I was really glad my showers were at least adults-only. Nowadays kids are so entitled and parents so desparately just want a break so if they are preoccupied with something, even if it’s annoying others, most parents just dont’ care and let it happen.
Post # 18
I am not a kid person either. I don’t mind children when it is their event (like a birthday party, easter, etc). I do mind when intrusive behavior goes on without being reprimanded.
Post # 19
Ugh that drives me nuts too! And you know the person opening the gifts would feel bad to say anything so the parent/guardian should keep them under control. My BM’s son is terrible about getting in the way. Any time you’re eating something he is right there in your face trying to take YOUR food off YOUR plate and I don’t understand why my friend let’s him get away with that time after time. This weekend we ran into a cousin of mine at a festival and he was eating some fruit. I was with my friend and her kids. The kid started taking some fruit out of the container my cousin was holding and eating out of! And this was the first time my friend even met this cousin. Great first impression. Sigh. I totally don’t blame you for being annoyed, especially at your own shower.
Post # 20
I wouldn’t care if it was like one or two presents they helped open or something, but all of them would get kinda annoying. What is the kid going to do when she’s at someone else’s birthday party? She can’t open that kid’s gifts. I think the parent could have let her have a little fun with the gifts, but not let her have free range for the entire gift opening part.
Post # 21
My shower is this weekend and my Future Mother-In-Law has already told me and my mother that her granddaughters will try to open all of my gifts. She based this off of how they acted at my FSIL’s shower. Neither my mother or I had the heart to tell her what he wanted – “If it’s an issue, don’t bring them”. My mom put together activity bags for the girls to hopefully distract them enough.
I enjoy spending time with the girls but I’ve been to showers where this really slows things down and is disruptive to the other guests. It takes the attention off of the gifts that each guest thoughtfully purchased for the bride.
Post # 22
i think you’re right. i get the same feeling all the time. i feel like i always see parents who are just so exhausted/overwhelmed/whatever that they pass off bad behavior as “cute” or “kids being kids” so they don’t have to get off their butts and discipline them. does not help my feelings about kids in general, or wanting to have them. I feel like i’d be seen as the strictest mom ever or something bc i wanted my kids to have manners.
Post # 23
My mom bought coloring placemats and crayons for the little ones! When I opened my second gift, it was wrapped in a TON of bubblewrap – that was also a huge hit (they took it to the back of the room and sat there for an hour)
Post # 24
meh…if i was the parent and you didnt say anything to make me believe you didnt want her helping i never would have stopped her. i dont think ive ever opened a present with a little kid around and not let them help. if you arent happy with a childs behavior you cant expect the guardian to be psychic…even telling the girl to go sit with her mommy then giving your aunt a knowing glance probably would have ended it. essentiall you cant blame parents for not being psychic.
Post # 25
it annoys the hell out of me too so i pray my only friend with a kid *not a baby that is* doesn’t bring her…
recently at a friend’s baby shower *of course lots of kids there* there was about 4 of them “helping” to open gifts they helped so much that they threw away the directions that came with my gift (it was a diaper bag that clips to the stroller i bought it off etsy) so i had to run over dig the instructions out of the trash…it’s huge pet peeve of mine
kids need to learn to behave i know they’re excited but goodness they could drop a huge box and hurt themselves or get into a fight with another child about opening gifts *saw that happen once* parents please leave any little little children at home…
Post # 26
I asked my 4 year old flower girl/hubby’s niece to help me open gifts. She volunteered to help during our engagement party and wanted to do it again. I feel like it gets a lot of the attention off me b/c everyone is looking at the cute little girl, and that’s what I wanted. Plus, it made her feel extremely special to have a role. She took her job as flower girl seriously!
But I do get how it would be annoying if you barely know the kid and don’t want any help from them.
Post # 27
SO annoying. My biggest pet peeve, party related, is people who do not RSVP. I cannot STAND that. It’s really so hard to make a call? I don’t think so.
Post # 28
You’re totally right to be annoyed at her parents (but when you say you’re shocked at how kids are these days, you do need to recognize that a child of 2-3 does not recognize other people have needs and wants at all–she seems to be acting pretty age-appropriate given the situation).
If it were me, I’d probably distract her somehow and then pointedly say, “Hey, go show that to your mommy!” or say, “Hey, come sit over here and help me with this one”. But I’m like that.
But yeah–your aunt should not have let her do that. And she does have to learn that not all gifts are for her!