Post # 1

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Helper bee

Hey there bees. I’m in need of some advice again! I just had my alterations consultation and I snapped a few pics of myself with the dress pinned to my height with the shoes I was wearing (3 inches). I brought those shoes as an example, although I was thinking of going with something closer to 2.5 inches. The problem is, now when I look at the pics of the dress pinned to my length with 3 inch heels, I feel like I look REALLY short. So now I don’t know anymore if 2.5 inches will work. Or should I take it up to 3.5 (probably as high as i can go since I’m a non heel wearer). What do you guys think? Do I look short? Do the dress proportions look weird? Btw, I’m 5’4” if that helps!
Post # 3

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Bumble Beekeeper
@cestvrai: I think 3.5 inch heels can be comfy, you just need a platform in the front and a good shoe. I personally don’t think you look short, but if you do there is no reason why you can’t wear a higher heel.
Post # 4

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Bumble bee
As a fellow “non-heel-wearer”, I say go for comfort. I am a little taller than you but I am not wearing heels because I am way more afraid of looking awkward for falling on my face than I am looking too short. You wanna be comfortable, so I say go with the 2.5 in. heels.
Post # 5

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Busy bee
@housebee: +1. Height and comfort don’t necessaily go hand in hand. Regardless of heel hieght, I’d invest in a comfortable pair of shoes.
Post # 6

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Buzzing bee
I’m 5’4 and I wore flats.
i also bought a dropped waist gown specifically.
I would not get any shoe you are not 101% comfortable in.
Try wedges.?
Also don’t alter until you have your exact shoe.
But don’t worry about being Short it isn’t a big deal you are who you are and built how you are.
Post # 7

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Helper bee
My feeling is it doesn’t matter how tall you are or your shoes are— it’s how tall you are/look in whatever shoes next to FI!
I am SHORT (5’2″) and I would be totally comfortable wearing flats… but I looked ridiculous next to my Fiance who is like a head taller than me. So I have 4.5 inch heelsfor pictures and 4.5 inch wedges for actually wearing. Because it’s not like I can go shorter and NOT look silly next to him. I want our picture height to be good. So my suggestion would be to deicde off of that. 😛
Post # 8

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Buzzing bee
@cestvrai: I’m 5’3″ and I’m wearing flats. Go for comfort! I knew that if I wore heels, I wouldn’t be able to wear them all night and I would end up taking them off and then my dress would drag all over the floor, so I’m just going to start in flats.
Post # 9

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Sugar bee
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
I think the positioning of the belt is giving you a shorter torso look. Maybe try a different belt or have the dress taken in a bit more at the waist. It still doesn’t quite look like it fits. Does it fit snugly or is it still big?
As for heels, I advocate comfort first.
Post # 10

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Bumble Beekeeper
I’m 5’1″ on a good day so I really dont think 5’4″ is that short. I say wear what you want that you are comfortable in.
Post # 11

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Helper bee
@Christy42213: yeah the dress is definitely big. This was just my consultation appointment, so there were a bunch of pins in the dress kind of holding it on me. But ill need to have it taken in in the chest, waist, and hips. So that’s why it doesn’t quite look right 😉
Post # 12

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Helper bee
@Eradicatereality: that’s a really good point! My Fiance is just about 6 foot, so yeah, I’m pretty short next to him. I’ll definitely think about what the pics will look like!
Post # 13

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Helper bee
- Wedding: August 2015 - Country Club
I am 5’2, so shorter than you, but Im used to wearing 3.5-5 inch heels. I was going to vote on wearing higher heels, but you wouldn’t be comfortable. Although there are some high and nice looking wedges you could try on (this way you add height and well wedge shoes are bit more comfortable than heels).
Post # 14

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Sugar bee
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
@cestvrai: I don’t think you’ll look short at all when the dress fits like a glove.