Post # 1
I just went dress shopping for the first time and while I had a great experience and found a dress that I really liked, I am having a serious issue knowing what any dress will acutally look like on me. I am very petite and the store didn’t have anything near my size, so I have no idea what the dress will actually look like on me from the back or profile view. The dresses required lots of clamping and a lot of the details were wrapped around my body and not at all like how they will actually look if they were sized to fit me. The wrapping and clamping at the back made it impossible for me to picture my shape and how the dress will lay across my back and booty or how my side profile will look.
How can I pick something so expensive without seeing how it will look on me? I have a lot of mental hang-ups on how things look from the back, and not being able to see how the dress looks makes me nervous. I know that I’m going to run into this problem wherever I go dress shopping, so what do I do?
Post # 3
I have this problem with everyday clothes as well. (I’m 5′, a size 2.)
What I ended up doing with my dress is looking at brides with similar body types. I bought my dress pre-owned, so it was already altered and fit well, but I’m not sure how you can really get an accurate feel of how a dress will fit on you when they only have the 6s with the long inseams….
this is one of the reasons I hate that they have so few sample sizes. I know a lot of plus size girls have this issue, but it’s just difficult for the really petite or really tall girls!
Post # 4
I had the same problem when I was trying on dresses! I ended up just taking the leap and getting a dress that I loved from the front on me, that also looked great on the model from the back. Turned out really well 🙂
A piece of advice I got but didn’t use: look for a bridal shop that caters to Asians! Apparently they usually have tons samples in 4s and 6s. Not sure where you are, but Markham, a small city outside Toronto, Canada, was suggested to me, and any place where there is a large Asian population might be similar.
Post # 5
Thanks! I think my biggest problem is that I am hyper analytical about how things look across my back, so if I can’t see how it looks on me, then I don’t even want to consider it. There is no Asian community in my casper-milk-toast part of the country, but I am not against traveling to a bigger market to find something. I wear a size 0-2 and all the dresses I tried on were size 10 and bigger. I just couldn’t visualize. My constultant did a great job clamping me in so I could get a feel for the front, but there were some dresses I told her not to bother with because they just wouldn’t work clamped.
Thanks for the advice!
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2010 - Ocean View Villas/Jasmine Seafood Restaurant
I feel your pain completely!!! I’m Vietnamese 5′ and a size 0. I had the hardest time with dresses because I really wanted something mermaidy, but the break was never right. Here’s what I realized…. every dress a petite gal gets is going to need a lot of alterations anyways. Get a dress you generally like and get a great alterations person. You’ll find that the dress will ultimately fit you like a glove. Dresses this expensive will need to fit you like a glove anyways right? Hang in there. Try to find tons of pictures of dresses online to see how the dresses ultimately fit on brides after alterations. Even if the gal is not your size, you can see how the detailing layed on the gal. Remember that the dresses that models wear haven’t been altered to their bodies, so it’s not the same as finding a bride who actually bought and altered it.
Post # 7
I had the same problem. I’m 5’0″ as well and the skirt proportion was something that I was really worried about in picking a fuller skirt. I ended up needing several alterations, including some we didn’t know about until other alterations were complete and it still didn’t set right. I tried to wear heels and use clips to pin the dress as close as possible to my actual size, which worked out fine for me. Most of the salons also let my Mom take photos of me in the dress so I could see how it worked later, which was very helpful.
Post # 8
I feel ya!I 5’0″ and am a size 00…! Most of the dresses I tried on were a size 8 or 10, which means a 10 or 12 street size. It was so hard to imagine how dresses would look, but I tried to ask detailed questions and be realistic about how similarly cut “normal” dresses fit me. They measure you for a reason – ask flat out where questionable parts will fall! It helps to look at other short brides in similar dresses.
Post # 9
I’m 5’2 and 100lbs. The dress got I tried on as a sample size 10> It looked weird but the model in the pic was built exactly like me ( except taller) so I kind of envisioned the two together and crossed my fingers! My dress looked great!
Post # 10
I had the same problem trying on dresses and when the dress arrived in my “size” as the store measured me, it didn’t look as good without the clamps 🙁 I needed a lot of alterations.
Here in LA the market is no different. Average sample size is a 10. I went to 21 stores and other than the trunk shows, I don’t think I got to try anything smaller than a 10. I’m a size 2 and 5’3″.
What type of dress are you looking for? I’d also recommend searching here for petite bride dress threads (there are several of them) and getting a feel for how dresses look on other girls similar to your build. Other options: 1. Go to a trunk shows, the dresses are usually made for the models and are tiny 2. Search on used dress sites and craigslist and maybe try on a local dress you like in your size. Even though they are “used” sites, sometimes you can find a brand new dress on which the bride changed her mind.
Post # 11
I just have to say i am having the exact same issue and it is so frustrating! I can’t even actually tell what the dress styles are – i tried on a trumpet style that looked like a ballgown on me and i couldn’t even tell it was tight fitting until i saw the model in the dress (and this was with me being clamped tightly!)
i’m just going to count on finding someone to do the alterations that i trust will be patient and listen to me, so that i can ultimately make the dress fit me the way it should. Good luck!
Post # 12
I had this problem too, all of the dresses I tried on (with the exception of the actual runway samples) were clamped to the max and still too big and of course waay too long. I tried on a LOT of dresses so after a while I realized what shape in general was better for my body and just got an overall ‘feeling’ from the fabric and design. I really had NO idea what my actual dress was going to look like in my size, but I knew I loved the shape and material.
Be careful looking at other petite brides as a guide.. some can actually pull off tough shapes like ballgown or sheath due to body shape. You should really focus on trying on a lot of different styles to see what looks best on your particular shape.