(Closed) Petty Fights with Friends

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle

Ain’t nobody got time for a 4 month argument. 

 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

mrscross1020:  I think it may be better if you share your circumstances so some of the bees can give good advice or make good comparisons.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Kaneohe, Hawaii

I’m the friend that can’t let go… Cos I’m the type who would rather sit down and talk like adults instead of just “dropping it.” Nothing irks me more than someone who would rather give me the silent treatments for a few weeks and then act like we’re bffs after. Ughhhhh

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

mrscross1020:  well then, do you really want to be friends still if they can’t let it go? 

it is hard to give advice here though without actually knowing the story. Like what you think is petty obviously isn’t to your friend and maybe people could give you advice/insight as to why.  

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

Yes, and I learned not to wait so long for a friend to forgive me.  It was almost like an ex boyfriend, as soon as I was over missing them as a friend, they came back and wanted to try but it was too late.  Friendship was never the same.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Sounds like the Ricardos vs the Mertz’s ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

mrscross1020:  At this point it seems that the friendship might be dissolving entirely, no?  

As for my experience, I’ve never had a fight with a friend.  A friend might annoy the shit out of me on occasion but I’ve never had a fight.  I have ended a friendship and changed a close friendship to a more distant/casual one.  

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’d cool that friendship right on down to “colleagues.”  I’d also be a little worried about whether there are temper tantrums at home.  Maybe some things were pointed out that day that she really didn’t want to face up to.  Or maybe her husband is just a lousy sport, who knows.  Keep a vague eye on her (if you’re worried) and keep conversations purely professional.  It’s not worth struggling through a rough conversation, especially after months! 

I think I’ve only had one real fight with a friend and it was short and sweet (I smacked her b/c she wouldn’t shut up teasing me about something or other…whoops).  that was in 7th grade though and we’re still best friends in our 30s, so I guess it’s fine.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

If you still want her as a friend, stop trying. Don’t start little conversations hoping she will come round, just talk to her when you have something to say.

People do tend to take their sports very seriously, and it seems she is doing what her husband is telling her to do, keep giving you the cold treatment.

So just drop all efforts to “patch it up”, just act normal and if she comes round, fine, if she doesn’t, there is nothing you should do differently.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

mrscross1020:  They sound like pouty babies. I cut people like that loose personally. Who needs it.

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