(Closed) Petty mother dramas and recinding invitations

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@candykiss:  I would tell your mom to stop her ways because it will make YOU look bad to your new family. Or call the hotel and see how much it would be for your uncle to come and try to come up with the money to get him to the breakfast.

Tell her this will make YOU look bad, not her. The rules for children have been established long ago and she needs to get over it quickly or you will be very disappointed in her.

Post # 4
3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I can kinda see the point though. The dress rehearsal was never really discussed and is typically not as formal as the wedding itself so everybody probably assumed it was fine, esp since the kuds are also ‘out of town guests’ and just doubled checked, shocked by the answer. 

Post # 5
46414 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

No one should be shocked that their children were not invited. It’s pretty easy to tell who is invited- the names are on the invitation. It was inapropriate of your Mom’s friend to ask if she could bring her kids. If she had any doubt whether they were invited or not, she should have raised the issue long before now as she will need a babysitter for that evening too.

Your Mom is being childish and petty over a situation in which you have no control. Your Future Mother-In-Law decided who was invited to the rehearsal dinner, not you.

Having said all that,  I would phone the hotel that is hosting the brunch, arrange to pay for another certificate (have it billed to your credit card) and ask them to courier it over to the Uncle’s hotel. I would then tell her what I had done.

I would hope that your Mom is gracious enough not to make a scene at the brunch. If she does, it will reflect on her, not you.

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