Post # 1
So, I’m not in love with my wedding photos. I’ve tried so hard to see the good in them, but it’s extremely hard to look past my HORRIBLE hair/makeup 🙁
I was extremely rushed & stressed the morning of my wedding day, resulting in my hair/makeup looking like crap! The makeup wasn’t horrible, but not exactly what I was going for, but my hair definitely was not what I wanted. I barely even had time to look in the mirror when I was done..I had to hurry and put on my gown and rush to do our photos. Plus it didn’t help that it was EXTREMELY windy & muggy during our portrait session, which really took its toll on me. I know this sounds really petty…but my only regret on my wedding day was my hair and makeup…but its a lot bigger of a deal than it sounds when you get your photos back and you look like crap in half of them. Not how I want to remember myself on that day 🙁 Especially since we paid good money for them, seeing as that was the one thing we decided to really splurge on.
Now I know this isn’t my photographer’s fault..(but it would have been nice of her to at least tell me my hair was all over the place and in my face during a majority of the shots)..but I don’t know what to do…I cringe when I see some of them!
Sooo, I was contempleting doing a “re-shoot” with a different photographer just to get some portraits of my husband and I that we LOVE and will be proud to frame. I obviously can’t re-create the day, which I wouldn’t want to anyways, but I just want to have some pretty portaits of us, when we are competely relaxed and stress-free and I actually look like the pretty bride I wanted to look like. I was thinking of wearing my dress and getting my hair and makeup done by someone who can actually do a good job, and having my husband just wear a black suit and tie and going to a park or something. Is this totally weird? Do I just need to get over it and accept my photos the way they are? Of course my husband thinks they are fine the way they are, but I seriously can’t get over it…….It;s so disappointing. Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated, thanks SO much!!
Oh and the wedding was 3 months ago…and I was hoping to do the post-wedding shoot within the next couple months…is that too far away from my actual wedding day to even be a consideration??
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club
A couple’s portrait session is a great idea! You can do that anytime, and it’s nice to have some great portraits up in your house that aren’t “wedding-y,” it looks more timeless.
Do you think you might have a different perspective later on? I had a picture taken of me for my senior prom, and I’d spent that morning crying because my hair & makeup looked weird (I thought). I put the picture away and couldn’t look at it. I found it years later and I loved it… it’s a candid shot, and yes, the wind blew my hair all over the place! But it adds to the picture, especially all these years later that I can remember the day so vividly.
I’m sure you look great! (I know you probably don’t want to hear that right now, sorry). Were you happy in any of them? Any candid shots? Can you show us?
Post # 4
you should totally do a re-shoot if you think it will make you feel better!! my fiance & i are considering taking our gown/tux on our honeymoon & hiring a photographer for a day there to do a gorgeous shoot somewhere. it’s always fun to get dressed up & take photos! I think you should totally do it & it’s never too late.
Post # 5
We actually just started offering this in all our packages. It also frees up a lot of time for you to enjoy your guests, when there is less stressful portrait sessions at your wedding. The rock-the-dress, fearless bridals, trash-the-dress, day after session (photogs all have different names for them) tends to be a little more creative and you are fresh and relaxed. It also gives you a chance to go some place you wanted to have photos done, but just wasn’t feasible during the wedding. Not to mention we are in New England so we’ve had quite a few wet weddings this season, this gives our couples a chance to have beautiful outdoors portraits. I think its a great idea and it’s a lot of fun.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
Can we see one or two of these “terrible” pics? I’m guessing they’re not anywhere as bad as you think….plus, i love wedding pictures 🙂
Post # 7
If you aren’t happy with your pictures, then I think a post-wedding photo session is a great idea.
I do need to note the following in defense of your photographer: there are some brides whose sense of fashion is a bit unusual, so if a bride is wearing too much makeup or her hair looks unusual it is possible that this is what she actually wanted and it would be really upsetting if someone told the bride to change her look. My photographer only commented on my makeup after I specifically asked him how it looked, and he clearly could see that I really wanted his input. Otherwise, he would have stayed quiet since it was possible that I liked a lot of blush on my cheeks. Also, there is the fact that there may be no alternative by the time you see the photographer. If the photographer didn’t meet you at the salon, it would be hard to fix your hair and makeup onsite. The last thing in the world you would want to do is upset the bride and make her feel bad about her hair, since hair might be able to be photoshopped or it might be blown by the wind into an interesting pattern but a sad bride comes through really clearly in all the pictures.
But you need to be completely comfortable with your photographer, and if you are at all unhappy with the technical aspects of your pictures or still can’t get over this, please find another photographer to shoot your trash the dress or post wedding shots. I hope that you have a wonderful session!
Post # 8
Actually lots of girls redo their wedding portraits. Summer time heat doesn’t make for good hair and you can look so wilted if you have a summer wedding.
I don’t think a lot of brides think about that. Hard to imagine 100 heat when you are planning your wedding in the winter and it is freezing outside. 🙂
Also anyone planning an out side please think about having the ceremony later in the evening. You will be so much happier if you don’t have it under midday sun!
Your photos will look much better if it is after 4pm or better yet about an hour before sunset! Its cooler and the light rocks!
Post # 9
as a photographer, i wouldnt dare to second guess the bride or makeup artist on what is being produced hair and makeup wise…afterall, it might be on purpose and im just sticking my mouth where i shouldnt….so if you’re unhappy with your hair and makeup artist, you should blame the hair and makeup person….we can only do so much to make people look great if the original problems is not ours! afterall, we cant do a wedding without taking pictures of the bride!
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
I highly recommend re-doing them if you’re unhappy. As Darren said, it’s not the photog’s job to make recommendations or critiques on your hair or makeup. They just do the best with what they’ve got. If you’re happy with your photog’s style, i’d suggest re-doing the hair and makeup with someone else and using the same photographer. you may even get a discounted price, especially if the photog knows you were unhappy with your wedding shots.
I hated the photos from my first wedding. I never was happy with them, and i never said anything about it. I should have though, and so should you (imo).
Post # 11
Nothing wrong doing another take.
You could even wear your dress again and take some portraits with that to replace in your album?
Most photographers wouldn’t say something about a style, because it’s not our place and it could be offensive, as was mentioned. It’s a tough line and you need to balance accordingly.