Post # 1
Okay so OH and I have had trust issues in the past. We had an argument at the weekend which lead me to be suspicious he was chatting to girls online. I snooped his emails and found one from his ex thanking him for photos of our son. He replied along the lines of thank you but how about a photo of yourself.
I’m annoyed he sent photos of our son but more upset why he was asking for a photo of her. He says he was wondering how she was keeping? I’m fine with him emailing her occassionaly on a friendly basis but feel photos is too far. He thinks I’m over reacting,
Am I bees?
Post # 2
No you are not overreacting. If she’s an ex, I don’t necessarily see a reason for a photo exchange. And I DEFINITELY don’t see any reason for him to be sending her pictures of your son. Maybe if they were Facebook friends or something and she happened to see the picture, but to actually attach a picture to an email and send it? No. Not that there really is a difference because she could just as easily save a picture from a Facebook page, it’s just the point.
Post # 3
It’s weird that he sent a pic of your son, and inappropriate that he asked for a pic of her. It might just be weird if she had a child or children and he asked for a picture of them, then it’s just exchanging cute photos, but no, he asked for a picture of HER.
You have to have extremely awful social awareness to not realize that, when you’re in a relationship, specifically asking an ex to send a photo is crossing a line. My guess is that he just didn’t think he’d get caught.
Post # 4
I’m not a jealous person but yes, that is very weird and inappropriate.
Off topic: what is OH?
Post # 5
It’s a bit strange but it depends on his reasoning. He may not have seen anything wrong with it making him oblivious. Him asking her for a photo may have just been him being polite.
Post # 6
llevinso: Other Half probably… In the UK, we often refer to a SO as the other half
Post # 7
llevinso: other half. I think it’s more of a British term.
Post # 8
anon1982: 1) Who does that and 2) why wouldn’t he tell you about it
Post # 9
Super creepy that he’s sending photos of YOUR child to his ex girlfriend. Who gave him permission to distribute pictures of your son to people online? Who are practically strangers to you?
Also total douche for the photo request. Was definitely hoping to cheat and get a nice underwear shot from her. Sorry. X
Post # 10
Thanks for your replies. I should say his ex lives in another country so no physical cheating. I just don’t get what he would of done with the photo. If I came across an ex I would ask how he was but couldn’t care less what he looked like. To me that’s crossing the line between being caring and something sexual.
Post # 11
howdoyoudo: that’s what he says. She apparently always asks after our son and as she doesn’t have children he thought he was being polite.
Post # 12
Hopefully the ex realizes how inappropriate and creepy it is and stops talking to him, or at least not as much. I get weirded out when my own Fiance asks for a picture of me…. I’d be REALLY weirded out if an ex did it.
Post # 13
Umm, my Darling Husband is friends with two lovely exes. Great women just not his perfect match. And yeah, I would find that odd. And anger inducing. This coming from a wife who was cool with him sleeping in the same hotel room as one of his exes in twin beds. It was cheaper and well, I trust him. But why, why, why would he need a photo?
Post # 14
I disagree with PPs about sending a pic of your son — to me that’s kinda cute like he’s proud and wants to show off your cute son. Asking for a pic of the ex, however, is not ok. It’s not cheating or anything but it’s just kinda creepy.
Post # 15
This steps over the line, in my opinion. It’s not HIS son but your son together abs the person he’s handing the photo out to is not just some arbitrary colleague. I wouldn’t want an ex having pictures of anything, not because we ended badly…most of my exes I can still have friendly conversation when I see them out and about. But because that time in our lives is over. I don’t see the need to revisit it. More distressing is that he asked for a picture of her. I can almost understand being proud of one’s kid but what’s up with the second request??