(Closed) Photo of ex girlfriend – okay to request?

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Was it wrong of him to ask for a photo?
    yes - it's inappropriate : (154 votes)
    94 %
    No - what's the big deal? : (10 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    295 posts
    Helper bee

    No you are not overreacting. If she’s an ex, I don’t necessarily see a reason for a photo exchange. And I DEFINITELY don’t see any reason for him to be sending her pictures of your son. Maybe if they were Facebook friends or something and she happened to see the picture, but to actually attach a picture to an email and send it? No. Not that there really is a difference because she could just as easily save a picture from a Facebook page, it’s just the point. 

    Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    It’s weird that he sent a pic of your son, and inappropriate that he asked for a pic of her. It might just be weird if she had a child or children and he asked for a picture of them, then it’s just exchanging cute photos, but no, he asked for a picture of HER.

    You have to have extremely awful social awareness to not realize that, when you’re in a relationship, specifically asking an ex to send a photo is crossing a line. My guess is that he just didn’t think he’d get caught.

    Post # 4
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    6835 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2016

    I’m not a jealous person but yes, that is very weird and inappropriate. 

    Off topic: what is OH?

    Post # 5
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    2622 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    It’s a bit strange but it depends on his reasoning. He may not have seen anything wrong with it making him oblivious. Him asking her for a photo may have just been him being polite.

    Post # 6
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    752 posts
    Busy bee

    llevinso:  Other Half probably… In the UK, we often refer to a SO as the other half

    Post # 8
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    2180 posts
    Buzzing bee

    anon1982:  1) Who does that and 2) why wouldn’t he tell you about it

    Post # 9
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    113 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    Super creepy that he’s sending photos of YOUR child to his ex girlfriend. Who gave him permission to distribute pictures of your son to people online? Who are practically strangers to you? 

    Also total douche for the photo request. Was definitely hoping to cheat and get a nice underwear shot from her. Sorry. X

    Post # 12
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    2598 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    Hopefully the ex realizes how inappropriate and creepy it is and stops talking to him, or at least not as much. I get weirded out when my own Fiance asks for a picture of me…. I’d be REALLY weirded out if an ex did it. 

    Post # 13
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    3244 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Umm,  my Darling Husband is friends with two lovely exes. Great women just not his perfect match. And yeah, I would find that odd. And anger inducing. This coming from a wife who was cool with him sleeping in the same hotel room as one of his exes in twin beds. It was cheaper and well,  I trust him. But why, why, why would he need a photo?

    Post # 14
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    1151 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I disagree with PPs about sending a pic of your son — to me that’s kinda cute like he’s proud and wants to show off your cute son.  Asking for a pic of the ex, however, is not ok.  It’s not cheating or anything but it’s just kinda creepy.  

    Post # 15
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    1812 posts
    Buzzing bee

    This steps over the line, in my opinion. It’s not HIS son but your son together abs the person he’s handing the photo out to is not just some arbitrary colleague. I wouldn’t want an ex having pictures of anything, not because we ended badly…most of my exes I can still have friendly conversation when I see them out and about. But because that time in our lives is over. I don’t see the need to revisit it. More distressing is that he asked for a picture of her. I can almost understand being proud of one’s kid but what’s up with the second request??

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