Post # 1
I just received a co-worker’s wedding thank you from this summer. Beautiful wedding, and the thank you card included several (small) professional snapshots of the day.
However, the bride and groom had a generic “thank you” message printed on the thank you card – and didn’t bother to write anything else to personalize it on the back! SO ANNOYED. It bothers me a ridiculous amount when people think that a printed photo card is enough of a thank you. Another co-worker did it for her baby shower gift too…and I remember her mentioning to the newly-married co-worker that no one had said anything negative about it. OF COURSE no one will tell her to her face that it’s annoying to receive the exact same thank you with nothing to make it personal. While it’s a breach in etiquette, I’m not going to be the one to call her and tell her that she’s being rude with not including a personal message.
I have no problem with photo thank you cards…as long as something personal is written on the back! Or pre-printed envelopes…for a thank you, not the official wedding invitation. *annoyance* I know I’ll probably make photo thank yous myself, but the personal message is needed! Without it, the thank you just seems obligatory, not genuinely grateful for the gifts received.
Post # 3
i dont have a problem with a lack of personal message – im just so happy to actually get a thank you these days that i count my blessings
Post # 5
@raspberrylemonade: I’m with you. It is the height of laziness to simply pop a card in an envelope and think that fulfills your obligation to send a thank-you note. It lets the person know that you received their gift, but that’s about all.
Post # 6
I totally agree with you. It’s super rude and impersonal. It’s like, I’m going to put forth the least amount of effort and thought possible . . . nice . . .
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2012 - Zama Beach Club, Isla Mujeres, Mexico
Ive never actually received a thank you card from a wedding, so I would be happy! lol
Post # 8
Thats why I bought folding thank you photo cards. I was brought up you have to write something meaningful and personal per card. It does kind of bug me too when I get a typed thank you, and its very vague and impersonal. Like all they did was change the name “thank you (insert givers name here) thank you for your time, and generous gift. blah blah blah” I gave you a toaster oven…
Post # 9
We were planning on doing this exact thing. We did postcards for our couples shower with a personal message so for the wedding we are doing a photo with a generic thank you. We have been to events/givin gifts about 5 times this year and have yet to receive ONE thank you card. That’s even more rude.
Post # 10
I would think it was borderline rude, but personally I don’t think it’s anything to complain about though? =/ Maybe that’s just me. If I get someone a gift, it’s because I want to give them a gift, not be “recognized” and “appreciated” for giving them a gift…
Post # 11
@mrsbruff2b: I agree! Frankly, I’m a little horrified by the amount of judgement I’ve seen on WeddingBee concerning thank you cards. It makes me worry that my own thank you’s have been inadequate :-/
Post # 12
I actually don’t see anything that wrong with a generic thank you. Its nice to just get a thank you. Plus, when we did our thank yous, it was hard to come up with something to say to each person. I ended up saying that same thing anyways: thank you so much for (insert gift recieved). It was great seeing you and spending time with you. I am so glad you were able to make it. Etc. Also, if the wedding was really big, writing out a thank you to each person could take a long time, so a generic could keep the person sane!
Post # 13
That stuff annoys me too, mostly because I’m the type of person who agonizes over writing thank yous, and tries to make every one personal and with proper ettiquette format.
…. speaking of, this is reminding me that I still have about 40 thank yous to write, and my wedding was about 4 months ago. Did I mention I’m a total slacker? *Bridal Guilt*
Post # 14
Wow things have changed. I was taught that in a proper thank you note personally called out the gift in detail – thank you for the lovely baby blue bath towels etc.
Then you were to express gratitue for coming to the wedding travel if they came from out of town and you were to make sure their name was or was not in guest book to make sure it they did not attend and you noted that also. I am so sorry that you were unable to attend we will have to get together as soon as we settle in to married life. Thanks so much for coming all the way from new york to share this special day with us
My mother would have my head on a platter if I did not send out a VERY personal note to each and every guest that attended my wedding. I am shocked that people think a pre made card stuffed into an envelope is any way to Thank someone. We actually sent out Thank you notes to each and every vendor also and the pastor who married us.
Times they are a changin’
Post # 15
@december bride: We did thank you cards for our vendors too! I feel the same way as you do 🙂
Post # 16
I think it depends on your relationship with the bride/groom. If its your BFF it better be personal or a relative…….