posted 8 months ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: Use sister’s best friend as wedding photographer?
    Nope-she will probably miss stuff because she’s hanging out with her best friend : (12 votes)
    86 %
    Yes! Save that money girl! : (2 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 2
    533 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    I think if you hired her she probably wouldn’t be too busy being in “best friend” mode to do her job, but personally wouldn’t use an amateur photographer for my wedding no matter who it was. I would use a professional whose style you love, and if they’re expensive, maybe ask for a package with fewer hours to save money. That’s what I’m doing with mine!

    Post # 3
    8798 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I would meet with her and seem how professional she seems and get a look at her work, talk about her style, all the stuff you would do with a professional.

    My SIL does wedding photography as a side job (she’s also a full-time teacher) and she does a lot of friends’ and friends of friends’ weddings. But I know that when she is at a wedding she is in full professional mode. So it’s not automatically a bad idea, it just depends on the person.

    Post # 4
    1223 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2020

    It depends on the person. I took wedding photos for the aunt of my best friend, but I had no problem turning off “best friend mode” to be professional and give the bride my full attention during the wedding. Before and afterwards were the times I hung out with my best friend, not during.

    So it completely depends on how professional she is! Also make sure to look at her work to see if it fits your style and her experience. Just because she may be the cheaper choice, doesn’t mean she’s the better choice. Good luck!

    Post # 5
    1852 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I think it would depend on the importance you place on your photos. If you really want amazing memorable photos that you can have to cherish and they are really important to you, I think the better route would be to direct your budget towards a professional.

    If you really don’t care about the photos, or don’t have a specific standard or volume or amount you want, you might feel more comfortable with an a amateur. If you use an amateur I would perhaps do an engagement or family session first, be very clear, very concise and very professional in your relationship and what your expectations are going forward.

    Post # 7
    48 posts

    I realize you already made a decision but I’ll add an anecdote quickly for other curious Bees. 


    For my brother’s wedding we used an amateur who also happened to be the friend of one of the guests. His online portfolio was nice but he never shot a wedding. He spent time with his friend and it felt like we had to pry him away and specifically request certain shots. Eventually I made him a list and he got the hang of it. The pictures turned out fine but it was doubtful that if we left the photographer to his own devices we would have gotten the necessary photos.


    I support that people needs to start somewhere but if this isn’t something you want to worry about go with a trusted professional. 

    Post # 9
    5955 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    dionsmom :  If you can affod it and you value photography I’d go with a seasoned pro.  I think that it’s an area where you really get what you pay for.

    Personally, I prefered not to have any friends as vendors (or “friendors”) as it felt too uncomfortable to me to mix the two relationships together.  I have a hard enough time being honest and direct with a professional, much less with my friend. 

    Being a great wedding photographer is a skill that comes with a lot of experience (catching that perfect first kiss moment or that dip during the dance is difficult!) so I was happy to pay full price and hire out the job.  

    Post # 10
    3861 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    If photos are important to you then get a professional. If she hasn’t done professional/wedding shoots before she may not know all the tricks of e.g. wrangling families for group shots, where to stand for the best angles, what makes a good getting ready shot, being unobtrusive to get candid shots, good poses for couple shots that also look natural etc. Unless you really know her work and she has portfolios you can look at I wouldn’t risk it. 

    Post # 11
    1025 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    I’d base it on her portfolio. If she’s trying to become a professional and build a career I don’t think you need to worry about her being in best friend mode.

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